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Hi all,

i have very ill-mannered and jealous MIL and FIL. The thing is i have good relations with my sils. They are around teh same age as me and whever we get together, we manage to have a good time. I do all the work, but atleast they laugh and smile and 'volunteer' to help me. even that is good.
The thing is i cannot tolerate my MIL and FIL. They are horrible people. I have seen a side of them what their own childrne have missed or probably have overlooked. Eceryone is nice to their own children but towards a bahu, things turn so green...!
Now i want to maintain a good relation with my sils but cannot manage the same with the elder Ils'. How do i manage? If i distance myself from the FIL-MIL club, i get labelled a Bad dil immediately..

Anyone with the same problem?any help there?

Thanks Diigent replied. Pray who decides you are a bad DIL and do you even care. You have to live your life and be around friendly nice people, who make you feel good. How come in-laws don't get such labels?! wish u luck replied. You are in a tough situation... Are you living with your in-laws? If so try to work your routine around them and avoid being in the same room. Withdrawing is a good idea if it can be done tactfully. Trying to cater to them and being nice might help but then again they may just not see the effort but do try.

Also have you brought this up with your hubby? It can be hard to do and its even harder to make him see how hurt you are. Try keeping a journal of the things said & done & your feelings about them... Were you hurt or upset.... And then go to your hubby and ask him for advise & support. I wish you all the best.... I really do Tracy replied. Where do you all live?