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If you want to be happily married, make an effort. If you don't make an effort you may find yourself in a mediocre relationship. Read on.
After marriage, not a lot of communication happens at home. So although the two of you may be home together a lot, one may be busy watching television, working, surfing the net or reading the newspaper, while the other may be busy with the children, finishing off chores, cooking and so on. If one of you is constantly working, grumbling about it and nagging him or her to spend more time at home is not going to work. Instead, get proactive.
How often do you spend your weekends working? At times, you don't have a choice. Some jobs just do require more time than others. But in such situations it becomes necessary to consciously take time out to spend together as a couple, else it's not going to happen and your marriage is going to deteriorate.
Movies
To revive your relationship, it helps for you to 'date' each other every now and again. If you like watching movies, fix up a plan to watch a movie or play together. You could have dinner out and then go for a late night show. Although you could fix up with friends too, every once in a while make plans for just the two of you, so you can have an evening out bonding with each other.
Lunch
Lunch often works out to be convenient for all, so make plans to meet for lunch around once or twice a month, in the middle of the week. Even if the two of you are swamped with work, you have to eat. Fix up for lunch on a relatively less busy day of the week so you can catch up with each other and spend some time enjoying good food in a good ambience.
Walks
A great way to bond is to go for short walks after dinner. Not only will this help you digest the food you've eaten, but it is also a good habit to get into. (Who hasn't heard the phrase 'After dinner, walk a while…'?) In addition, you will have a chance to discuss the day's events with each other.
Sex
If you leave sex for when it happens, if it happens and if it is spontaneous, you may as well kiss your sex life goodbye after a few years - or even sooner. If you lead busy lives with stressful careers, you're not going to be in the mood very often. Sometimes you just need to forge ahead as planned! Help get your spouse into the mood by using soft lighting that night, wearing sexy lingerie and smelling good. Don't forget to put on romantic music. Start off by massaging each other or by getting into a steamy hot tub. Could there be a more relaxing way to turn each other on?
Activity
Take up at least one activity that the two of you can do together. It could be a sport like golf or tennis, or it could be a hobby like gardening.
Name: ashok
City: mumbai
Comments: very very useful your article, after reading your article we go together every weekend for small dinner, we are very happy.
City: mumbai
Comments: very very useful your article, after reading your article we go together every weekend for small dinner, we are very happy.
Name: Genevieve Omeche
City: PORT HARCOURT
Comments: I want to enjoy my marriage
City: PORT HARCOURT
Comments: I want to enjoy my marriage
Name: Paula
City: usa
Comments: Very good tips...wish there could of been more.
City: usa
Comments: Very good tips...wish there could of been more.
Name: vaishali
City: bangalore
Comments: i know how true that sounds, cos i have been and am going through it...now that i know how to deal with it, i think i can i spice up my marriage here on.thank you
City: bangalore
Comments: i know how true that sounds, cos i have been and am going through it...now that i know how to deal with it, i think i can i spice up my marriage here on.thank you
Name: ruchi gupta
City: noida, u.p.
Comments: thats very much true to maintain a healthy and living relationship between husband and wife as there should be something innovative in their married life. as life goes requirement of communication is much needed. this is good suggestion for all.
City: noida, u.p.
Comments: thats very much true to maintain a healthy and living relationship between husband and wife as there should be something innovative in their married life. as life goes requirement of communication is much needed. this is good suggestion for all.
Name: Munya
City: Lilongwe
Comments: Very very true, we went out for a long weekend together and we both are feel very relaxed and ready to start the year over again
City: Lilongwe
Comments: Very very true, we went out for a long weekend together and we both are feel very relaxed and ready to start the year over again
Name: Surabhi
City: Delhi
Comments: well Good tips.. can i add something.. we both are having stressful growing carrer and parents of 7 month old. we tried to maintain healty communication by 1. talking over phone while travelling for office. 2. having a determination to give half an hour exclusively for each other after finishing all our jobs.
City: Delhi
Comments: well Good tips.. can i add something.. we both are having stressful growing carrer and parents of 7 month old. we tried to maintain healty communication by 1. talking over phone while travelling for office. 2. having a determination to give half an hour exclusively for each other after finishing all our jobs.
Name: Monica
City: Delhi
Comments: Good tips indeed. For Happy married life Communication is a Must. Whether you are a homemaker or working, the deciding factor of a healthy relationship is to have open ended communication with each other.
City: Delhi
Comments: Good tips indeed. For Happy married life Communication is a Must. Whether you are a homemaker or working, the deciding factor of a healthy relationship is to have open ended communication with each other.
Name: Arati
City: mumbai
Comments: well a good article it is.but sometimes like a graph things need to be left alone and not much effort be put into the relationship. Some Marraiges rock at different points of time, some times its happier and merrier, at times you feel constrained. Its the state of the mind that counts and is required for maintaining positivity and progress through the trails of a married life.
City: mumbai
Comments: well a good article it is.but sometimes like a graph things need to be left alone and not much effort be put into the relationship. Some Marraiges rock at different points of time, some times its happier and merrier, at times you feel constrained. Its the state of the mind that counts and is required for maintaining positivity and progress through the trails of a married life.
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