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Kids with Good Character



At some point most parents think about the kind of person their child will grow up to be. Will your child grow up to be of good character?


This is different from what they may do for a living, and involves issues of integrity, honesty and caring for others. Will your child grow up to be of good character?

The answer to the question can be determined by examining parental behaviour from very early on. As parents nurture their children and act in their presence, they provide powerful lessons that will set the tone for what kind of adults their children will turn out to be.


Two key ingredients can go a long way to developing your child to be of good character:

  1. Helping them take responsibility for their actions;
  2. Helping them participate in doing good deeds.


At two

When Jacob spills his juice, the parent has several choices in how to respond. Jacob can be scolded; ignored; helped to clean up the mess or the parent can clean it up alone. Each response carries its own message to Jacob. Scolding is upsetting in itself and teaches Jacob to avoid getting caught. Ignoring suggests the spilled juice doesn't matter and the behaviour can be repeated. The parent cleaning up for Jacob suggests Jacob has no responsibility what-so-ever for his actions and thus he can do as he pleases. Finally, the parent engaging Jacob in the cleaning process without scolding suggests there is a natural consequence to behaviour and he must assume some responsibility for restoring or repairing the situation.


At four

When Jacob is four-years-of-age and he aggressively takes a toy from another child, again the parent has choices in how to respond. If the parent explains to Jacob how he hurt the other child's feelings, has him apologize, return the toy and then negotiate sharing, Jacob learns the impact of his behaviour on others, restitution and then negotiation.


At six

Based upon these experiences, when Jacob breaks a window playing ball, you have increased the likelihood that Jacob will return to you on his own to report the accident and seek your help to clean the mess and correct the situation. He will have learned that you are caring, reasonable and responsible and he will be following the behaviour you modeled and taught him. He will act less with a concern of punishment and fear and more with a concern for caring and responsibility.


And beyond…

To further their children's good character, parents are advised to encourage their children to join them in practicing "good deeds". A good deed is when someone does something for someone else without being asked or without expecting anything in return. We teach children about good deeds by their observing our good deeds. We also teach about good deeds when we ask our children to help out, with only providing our thanks in return. Our thanks can of course include expressions of affection!

Through good deeds, children learn that the world doesn't just revolve around them, but includes others who may benefit from our help. At first the reward may come from our praise, but as the child ages, they learn to derive satisfaction themselves from helping others. Children can help clear the table, help the neighbour with the yard, share a toy and join us when we do our volunteer work.

Being of good character doesn't happen by chance. Parental behaviour that encourages children to take responsibility for their actions, correct situations and practice good deeds can go a long way to assuring kids grow up to be of good character.

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Naina.3 years ago
Good character and good nature are the two most important things you should teach your child from childhood.
 
 
 
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trisha.8 years ago
good point - thanks for the article
 
 
 
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Disha.8 years ago
very good article. many a time as parents we over look certain situations and this article suggests that kids need to be talked to and explained too when they do wrong which is great. thanks for giving such positive and informative articles on parenting.
 
 
 
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Aditi Shah.8 years ago
nice topic to choose.we can build a better place to live,if we understand our childs feeling.
 
 
 
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vijay kasiram.8 years ago
an excellent write up. good character and conduct are the chief elements for enhancing human values and relationships.
 
 
 
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ruchita.8 years ago
it's also a good idea to assign a time according to the type &quantity of home work so that no extra time is spent and the child does not get the feeling of studying too much eg. 1 page of a-z would take 6-8 min so a child in nursery canspend that much time every day or 10 min. a day in kg & so on.
 
 
 
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malathi.8 years ago
good point - thanks for giving support to parenting.
 
 
 
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Tony.8 years ago
good article.thanx
 
 
 
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madhuja.8 years ago
great job!good article
 
 
 
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Aleem.8 years ago
very good topic and good suggestions for parentsand usefull information.
 
 
 
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