There are many questions and confusion about resuming sex after childbirth. When and how to start are the biggest queries in new parents’ mind. Read on to learn about the facts about resuming sex after having a baby.
Having your bundle of joy in hands might make you forget about everything else in life at least for the time being. On the other hand caring for the little one is a 24/7 job and you have to be on your toes almost round the clock. Resuming sex goes almost at the back of the mind and many couples feel frustrated due to this.
The fact is that there are many hormonal changes going on inside the body after childbirth. Getting back to normal life and resuming sex can be tough, but it is doable as long as you expect sensibly from yourself and your body.
When Should You Have Sex After Childbirth?
You should wait until there is no vaginal discharge. Normally, it is about 3 weeks after childbirth. Discharge indicates that the wound inside you is still healing and if you resume sex during that period, it may lead to some kind of infection. If you had stitches after childbirth, it is very important they get healed before you get back to your sex life.
Fatigue and Lack of Sleep Are Big Hurdles
Looking after a newborn takes a lot of time and energy. Sometimes you have to stay awake during night which leads to fatigue the other day. So, no matter how much you plan for sex, hurdles are going to come in your way. The best way is to share your feeling and start with some cuddling and getting intimate first.
Tips for Resuming Sex After Delivery
Take a look at some tips that can help you to resume your sex life post delivery.
Have Some Intimate Time
Sometimes women do not feel the sexual urge after childbirth. This is quite common. Start with sharing some intimate time with your spouse. Enjoy the closeness and go slowly. Do not expect the intimacy would always lead to sex.
Do Pelvic Floor Exercises
As soon as you feel comfortable, get back the muscular tone of your vagina back by doing pelvic floor exercises regularly. This will enhance your pleasure and satisfaction.
Communicate With Your Partner
Be honest with your partner. If something is holding you back, discuss and try to come out of it.
Use Alternatives to Sex
If you do not find yourself ready for the intercourse, look for alternatives. Sex is about giving pleasure to each other and there are many ways in which you can satisfy each other.
If sex is uncomfortable, make use of lubrication because vaginal dryness is common when you are breastfeeding.
Try Comfortable Positions
When you feel that you are ready, take things naturally. You can choose the position in which you feel comfortable at least for the time being.
Choose Right Time
Select a time when you do not feel exhausted. Be prepared for having your newborn waking up in the middle. Have patience and do not get annoyed or irritated.
Take Care of Your Health
Pay attention to nutrition, rest and consume lot of fluid so that you do not feel exhausted any time. Even if you find difficulty managing everything, do not get overwhelmed. It is just a matter of some time. As soon as your infant will have longer nap time, you will be left with a good amount of time to spend with each other.
Accepting the normal course is the best thing when it comes to resuming sex after childbirth. Some women take longer time while some get back soon. Also, initially your plans for a sexual night may not turn up to be romantic. However, it is not always about the sex, make sure you both spend time with each other and strengthen your bonding and relationship.
When is it the right time to resume sex after delivery? What precautions should be taken while resuming sex after delivery? What are the alternatives if it is not possible to have sex after delivery? Discuss here.
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