It is advisable to let body heal after the
childbirth before resuming the post delivery sex life. Read on to find tips for
resuming the sex life after delivery.
Doctors and physicians have always
advised not to resume the usual sex life before a thorough postnatal check-up.
And the first postnatal check-up takes place normally after 6 weeks following
the delivery. Here it is important to understand the reasons why this
‘prohibition’ is practiced.
- If the woman has had a vaginal delivery, her vaginal tissues will take time to heal. After all there has been a considerable wear and tear in those muscles, and even surgically induced lacerations to aid the delivery.
- If it is a caesarean, the stitches would take time to heal and any untoward pressure might delay or harm the healing process.
- In both cases, the womb will take a minimum of 6 week’s time to return to its normal shape and size.
Although this 6 week’s time may not be a stringent rule as
the woman might feel healthy and ready to resume
a normal sex life within a month or so following her delivery. But it is
always recommended to seek the doctor’s advice.
Tips for Resuming
Sex after Delivery
Given below are a few options on how you can work towards
resuming your post delivery sex life:
Let off Steam Before
the Actual Intercourse – This is an excellent way of
not only preparing yourself for the normal and earlier sex life, but also to
make each other feel special. This is a great psychological and physiological
mechanism to normalise sex after childbirth.
After abstaining from sex for quite a considerable time, it does not require
much on the part of the couple to feel the need to come closer. So, engage in
love-play, and go for longer sessions. This will not only ignite the passion
but also ease out things like, apprehensions and discomfort.
Skip the Actual Intercourse
in the Beginning – After childbirth, the woman is
particularly apprehensive about how her partner might perceive her to be, would
she still be desirable, etc. besides, she is also worried about whether the
penetration would hurt her. Therefore, it is advisable to start off with some
deep kissing, caressing and petting at first. Then move on to oral if it is
comfortable for both the partners. But the man needs to be careful with her
organs and should not touch or stroke if the doctor has observed that she still
needs time to heal. After a few days, you would discover that both of you are
prepared for the actual sex act.
Use Plenty of Lubrication – After delivery, there are certain hormonal changes in the woman
which reduces her sex drive and lowers her natural lubrication. In order to
resume your normal sex life, you must begin using plenty of lubrication so as to
ease out things for her. It will also reduce pain by easing out the friction.
So go for ample usage of K-Jelly or Astroglide during post delivery sex.
Matters – When you are trying to resume an
active post delivery sex life, remember that you must avoid putting pressure on
her as much as possible. Decide on a position that protects her stitches and
also provides you with the pleasure of deep penetration. Also remember to
reduce your speed so as control rough friction. Usually the side-by-side and/or
the woman-on-top position are preferred during post delivery
Finally, while resuming post delivery
sex, you must acknowledge that there have been a lot of changes in your body.
So the woman needs to talk it out with her partner about what feels good on
her, or whether he is hurting her, or when he needs to go slow. These are
excellent ways to resume an enjoyable sex life after childbirth. It also makes
the partner aware of the conditions and he becomes more understanding and
accommodating to her needs. Thus, the point is to help him understand and not
just presume that he ought to know.