A lot of women cope with post delivery sex
difficulties. Read on to know more about the causes of post delivery
difficulties and how to cope with post delivery sex difficulties.
Post delivery sex needs to be delayed
for a certain period of time in order to allow the body to recuperate from the
stress of childbirth.
This period often ranges from several weeks to a couple of months depending on
the condition of her body and associated organs. This is to alleviate the
probable difficulties that might emerge and which is very natural. Enlisted
below are two of the most common difficulties that women face after childbirth:
- Sexual Dysfunction – This is caused primarily by Episiotomy, or the surgical cut that is made to aid vaginal or normal delivery. This injures the perineum and results in pain and further wear and tear during intercourse, if not allowed to heal properly.
- Postnatal Depression – Postnatal depression is the other common difficulty experienced by women post delivery as their minds are predominantly occupied by the needs and well-being of their babies, that they often neglect their own requirements and finally apprehend that they have lost their sex drive. They also fear that they are perhaps not that desirable to their partners anymore, now that they have already become a mother. They become more conscious regarding the appearance and changes in their body after childbirth.
Causes the Physical Difficulty?
As said earlier, post
delivery sex becomes painful when
the perineum is still in bad shape, or has not healed enough. Some women can
have an intact perineum even after a vaginal delivery. Resuming sex becomes
considerably easier in such cases. But in instances where there are tears and
lacerations in the perineum, require perineal sutures. Now, these sutures
naturally take time to heal and add up to the difficulty in sexual intercourse.
In some women there can also be an anal
tear. This is also surgically induced in specific cases to aid the natural
childbirth. This happens if the
baby is considerably larger in size. Although each is an individual case, with
relative associated physical conditions, in general the aforementioned
difficulties take approximately two to six months time to heal, accompanied by
There is also another condition that
adds to the difficulty – assisted vaginal delivery. This is an added difficulty
prospect as forceps and various suction methods are used to aid childbirth.
In comparison, caesarean delivery cases
report much lesser difficulties in post delivery sex. But there still might be
pain and swelling at the stitch site. Vaginal sex might be easier but the whole
activity may be stressful, and so it is advisable to abstain for a certain
period of time in order to ascertain that the whole body gets the desired time
the Bleeding Stop
This is another difficulty that stands
in the way of post delivery sex. After delivery it is normal for the woman to
bleed for around 4-6 weeks. Commonly known as lochia, the bleeding is heaviest
just after delivery as the placental remains flow out and gradually lessens
down. It has been found in many studies that almost 57% of women reported
lesser difficulties in post delivery sex over a period of 6 months.
The physiological as well as a
psychological difficulty is predominantly defined by sexual dysfunction. During
the post delivery period, due to several hormonal level changes, the woman
feels a considerable lower sex drive and her sexual sensations are also not
very high. Therefore, the satisfaction and the ability to reach orgasm are also
lowered. This is turn reduces the natural lubrication, causing vaginal dryness
and makes post delivery sex difficult and painful. Not to forget less desirable