It is advisable to have sex after the six weeks
of your delivery. Here are some tips for preparing yourself to resume your post
delivery sex life.
Post delivery sex life is an aspect that
women are worried about right from their pregnancy days. And after delivery
when the new mother gets some little time for herself, the nagging thought of
how sex might be or feel persistently plays on her mind. Not to forget this is
a thought that hovers around her partner’s mind as well. Remember, this is a
period that calls for an open heart to heart communication where each shares
one another’s thoughts and fears. Physiologically and psychologically there is
no reason why post delivery or postpartum sex cannot be as exciting as before.
In most cases it has been observed that
gynaecologists suggest that there should not be any sexual intercourse for at
least six weeks post delivery. This is keeping in mind the time required for the
vaginal tissues to heal that have suffered due to wear and tear during
delivery, and reduce the chances of pain and infection. But this not a rule,
for each woman the condition and the comfort level can be different. Given
below are certain tips on how you can make post
delivery sex an enjoyable and
Get Fit Physically – If you had a normal delivery, chances are that your vaginal
muscles are stretched. For a satisfying sex, you need to do something for these
loosened tissues. This is precisely why the Kegel exercises are prescribed.
They help in tightening up the vaginal opening. One needs to be regular with it
in order to attain effective results. This can be practiced in your own comfort
that is either sitting or lying down. Just like the way you contract the
muscles when you want to stop urinating, you must contract the vaginal tissues
while exercising. Simultaneously squeeze the urethra and the anus, stay in this
position for around 3 seconds and relax. This must be repeated in 3 sessions of
around 10-15 sets each time.
Take Precautions for
Possible Pregnancies – You need to take precautions
either in terms of timing of fertile period or use of condoms as you might not
want a second pregnancy right during the postpartum
period. Since you are nursing, even mini pills are found to be effective.
But remember to always consult your doctor before opting for a contraceptive,
as this is a delicate phase of your body.
Lubricate – Inadequate lubrication might be a problem during postpartum sex.
This is caused as a result of the hormonal change. Breastfeeding
results in the fall of Estradiol, the hormone that induces lubrication apart
from lowering the sex drive. Then the body also produces prolactin another
hormone that lowers the testosterone levels. So, for natural lubrication engage
in a prolonged foreplay and also resort to safe lubricating agents.
Slow and Tender – Here the onus lies on
the male partner. After childbirth, the woman requires a certain amount of time
to get her sexual organs back into the earlier state. So, allow her this time
and during postpartum sex be thoroughly gentle with her. Remember, her vagina
might not be sore anymore, but is still very sensitive. The more slow and
gentle you are, the woman would grow more comfortable and confident. This is
the very mechanism for a great post delivery sex.
Sex is an activity that is supposed to
be enjoyed by both partners. So an open communication and a mutual
understanding attitude go a long way to make postpartum sex as enjoyable as
your honeymoon days. Express your thoughts and fears openly and seek doctor’s
advice if required and also remember to set the timing right. You will discover
that you can have an exciting sex life along with an enjoyable parenthood.