Dealing with infertility issues are emotionally
taxing. TID or Therapeutic Insemination by Donor is one of the best treatment
options available in case of male infertility. TID procedure requires sperms
from anonymous donor. This procedure has
emotional repercussions for the couple undergoing treatment. Read on to more.
TID stands for Therapeutic Insemination
by Donor. This procedure is akin to sperm
donation in the sense that the process requires the use of sperms from an
anonymous donor to make the woman pregnant. This comes across as a treatment
option only when the man is infertile. Microinjection has evolved as a
preferred cure to deal with male
fertility issues and this has somewhat resulted in the decline of the TID.
But since these new-age techniques are quite pricey, many still prefer the TID.
Opting for TID is a big decision for any couple. There are a
host of issues ranging from emotional, ethical to psychological that can cause
serious problems for couples and their relationships. The child born out of the
TID procedure is often apprehended as ‘another man’s child’ by the family and
even the male partner or the father. The husband might feel unable to play the
role of a father and end up feeling envious, vulnerable, secluded, inferior and
On the part of the woman, she can feel bitter that she has
to undergo a treatment that is emotionally taxing for another person’s ‘inability’.
The idea of bearing the baby of a complete stranger and has to deal with the
emotional upheavals all by herself as she cannot confide it even with her close
relatives or friends.
This is the reason why couples who wish to undergo TID are
first advised to sit for thorough psychological counseling. It is whole gamut
of conflicting emotions that the wife and her husband undergo in these cases.
There can be fantasies and nightmares experienced by both the parents on the
anonymous donor. There are also concerns on whether the child born out of the
TID pregnancy will be normal and a whole lot of apprehensions regarding his
appearance, skin color, color and shape of the eyes and hair. It is even found
that the father experiences temporary impotency during the treatment, believed
to be caused by stress
more than anything else.
Ways to Overcome these
Since all the problems fall under the emotional category, it
is natural that the solution also lies in treating them through counseling and
enhancement of mutual relations between the couple. At times a tactful
gentleness and humor can go a long way to deal with the emotional
apprehensions. The most important point in this regard is that both the husband
and wife must be sensitive towards each other’s issues. All the apprehensions
of the husband and the wife are needed to be dealt with complete honesty and
Hiding them or pretensions can only lead to the development
of a compounded emotional turmoil that can lay hidden like a dormant volcano.
It is not only the relationship between the partners and marriage that is
important but it must be remembered that the future of the yet to be born child
might fall into serious jeopardy. And as parents they are only people who will
be accountable to whatever befalls him.
needs to be ensured between the couples that they will both be required to
be equal partners in the upcoming parenthood.
- It is
love, patience and understanding that alone can help both the partners to
deal with the treatment. They must first be assured of their commitment to
gynecologist, fertility counselor and a family counselor are the best
people whose help should be sought.
other available choice must be properly explored and TID must never be a