Children with low self esteem have certain characteristics that can be pinpointed.Given here is a guideline of checklist of statements that helps in identifying the warning signs of a child suffering from low self esteem.
Self-esteem is an abstract concept that is difficult to measure in terms of high and low. However, children with low self-esteem display certain characteristics that can be pinpointed. What follows is a checklist of statements that will help you identify the warning signals so that you know if your child is suffering from low self-esteem. All you have to do is to click 'yes'or 'no' depending on whether the statement applies to your child or not.
A word of caution. This is merely a guideline. Most children will exhibit some of these characteristics from time to time, but this does not necessarily indicate that they have low self-esteem.
- Your child has a tendency to daydream and often makes up stories about herself and her life. She wishes she was someone else and that her life was different. YES/NO.
- Your child is constantly running herself down and making derogatory comments about herself. YES/NO.
- Your child shrinks away from attention, positive or negative. YES/NO.
- Your child is lethargic. YES/NO.
- She doubts her abilities. Thus, she is afraid of accepting responsibility for anything. YES/NO.
- She is very indecisive, as she has no faith in her judgement. YES/NO.
- She is extremely shy in front of strangers and her peers, as she fears that she will not measure up to their standards. YES/NO.
- She bullies younger and weaker children in a show of power. YES/NO.
- She is attracted to authoritative, confident people and subscribes to their views because she doesn't trust their own judgement. YES/NO.
- She is isolated from her peers because she does not push herself forward to participate in games and avoids leadership roles. YES/NO.
- She tends to be submissive and does not assert herself. YES/NO.
- She seeks attention by boasting about her possessions or plays the fool and disrupts other children's games. YES/NO.
- She has a short attention span and gets frustrated easily when things don't go smoothly. YES/NO.
- She is not comfortable in new situations and becomes extremely anxious that she will not be able to cope. YES/NO.
- If she succeeds at something, she thinks it's because she got lucky or that it was easy. She doesn't ascribe success to her own abilities. YES/NO.
- If she fails, she inevitably thinks that it is because of her lack of intelligence or ability. YES/NO.
- She does not like to work independently and she is constantly asking people if she's doing things the right way. YES/NO.
- She does not ask too many questions out of the fear of being thought stupid. YES/NO.
- She rarely laughs or smiles because she is too busy worrying about putting a foot wrong. YES/NO.
- She often says nasty things about her peers. YES/NO.
- The Indiaparenting Team