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Name: abhilasha
Country: India
 thanks for the fantastic site.i truly beleive that one should always explain to their kids and then enforce the rules and never ever in public scold your kids.use words like,' your action makes mummy very sad so please don't do that'.avoid words like bad girl ,angry,stupid kid,dum etc.for you never know how soon they can pick these words up and use them
Name: Loretta
Country: USA
 thank you for a wonderful web site. i believe that disciline goes hand in hand with training. if a child is clumsy and spills a glass of water, then he shouldn't be punished, but he must be trained to quickly and quietly clean up the mess and make amends to those he inconvenienced. this training works to foster, responsibility and self-reliance and concern for others. i tried to give punishment only for acts of defiance or danger.
Name: Samir Jain
Country: India
 i though i would be a very strict father because my father was very strict and i turned out ok. but that didn't happen. my wife is more strict my my children than me. and i am considered a lenient father!
Name: madhu
Country: India
 people often confuse discipline and with cold-heartedness. they think just because you are strict, you are not loving. just because you ask your kids to do something and stick by your word, your hearth does not melt easily. but it does melt, except that you do not want it to show it to your kids. because once they figure out your weak spot, they will play on it, time and time agin.
Name: Mona
Country: India
 it is clear that there cannot be one view on the issue. it is important to be balanced. one has to be soft while saying something important, at the same time be strict enough to make them understand the inportance of the matter.
Name: Govind
Country: Dubai
 usually, it always happens that parents have to balance disciplining the child. because if the mother is too strict, then the father lands up being the softie, or vice versa, and rightly so. i think it is a matter of adjustment, and understanding.
Name: maya
Country: India
 it is important not to put your child down in front of others as far as possible. this weakens his or her confidence. often it is the warning that the punishment will be in front of the others present that brings about the discipline!
Name: Priya
Country: India
 i feel to provide the right kind of discipline both the parents should take the same stand atleast in front of the children. they can express their differences when the kids are not around or else they tend to get confused and think that they can get their way with one of them.
Name: sangeeta
Country: India
 teaching a child discipline is a job requiring great patience, observance & ability to behave correctly with the child in different situations. though it is a continuous learning process, the basic discipline that the child learns at home pays him/her throughout life.
Name: Surabhi
Country: India
 punishment can never be a solution to enculcate discipline. it is very rightly given in the article that the child must be ashamed of his own wrong doing, only then he/she would not repeat the same in future.
Name: Charlotte
Country: India
 parents should have patients which in turn help them to understand the child and also make the child understand the importance of the matter.
Name: Ruby
Country: USA
 please read the following book and then decide. i believe their advice is universal. i am amazed at the results i have achieved by following their advice. here is the title: how to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk by adele faber and elaine mazlish you must read this. it really makes sense and it works.
Name: anju
Country: India
 strictness and leniency are relative terms. the degree of strictness and leniency to be imposed on children varies from children to children and therefore wrong to generalise. it is a difficult task for the parents to balance between both specially in case of single child, where both the parents are always focussing their attention on the child. this leads to overindulgence and parents themselves are confused regarding what is right and what is wrong.
Name: mommmy maa
Country: Other
 how can u really make a 1&half year learn manners. any suggestions
Name: Anshu
Country: India
 parents must understand if they want their child to behave in certain manner, firstly they must set an example. as child learns most of the things by observing, if parents are behaving with each other and with the child in good manner, he will automatically follow the same behaviour. so, practice what you preach is the rule here.
Name: Juan
Country: Other
 i agree with discipling children as i think they will turn out to be dustmen if you don't and i do not wish for my child to become a dustbin man. i do not agree with this site infact i am going to make an opposite site right away for people who want tips on how to be a good disciplining parent!
Name: ellie
Country: England
 thank you for a wonderful web site.punishment can never be a solution to enculcate discipline
Name: keely
Country: Mauritius
 be nice
Name: jojo
Country: India
 children should be taught to respect not just others but firstly himself
Name: Anita Desai
Country: India
 very impressed by the part on parenting - discipline. we could add on the manners part - a child should wish elders or youngers, good evening aunty or hello ravi, goodnight aunty or bye pooja, i'll see you tomorrow. how do we handle something lik this, i haven't been able to teach my daughter.
Name: lalit
Country: India
 in first place lemme thank the author for a nice article. what article provides is a braoder guideline on how to inculcate discipline in your child. and yes, as some of the friends have responded, there are two keys to do this according to my opinion: 1. setting example!! (remeber, child will invariably follow is parents action) 2. using positive communication (as said by abhilasha) and always making your child understand why a particular act of his/hers is good or not good. please remember friends - shouting, scolding or any other similar effort to make your child learn discipline will not take you even one step further!!!
Name: H
Country: Japan
 ithink disciplining your children is right but you shouldn't need to resort to violence.
Name: Lauren
Country: England
 i think that it is acceptable to dicipline your children but there is a right time and place for it and violence/ stress shouldnt be took out on children
Name: Loretta
Country: USA
 thank you for a great web site.
Name: Adrian salas
Country: USA
 thank you for a great web site.
Name: M
Country: England
 thila-nicely said
Name: Thila
Country: Malaysia
 disiplining a child is important but using violence method is not the solution. nowadays kids are more alert then those days and since we are in technology era, our method of educating children is also has to be changed accordingly.
Name: M
Country: England
 all you lot that are saying 2 beat them up - i am 13 yrs old and if my mum would do that 2 me i would have 2 run away. i do get disciplined and i do agree with it but to really hurt your child is morally wrong. what sort of ppl r u anyway? i would not let any children within a mile of your house!
Name: Cameron
Country: Australia
 hey jose chavez you are a one time loser. obviously you don't knoe the first thing about children. why don't you get some real advice.
Name: Amy
Country: Canada
 look im studing parenting at school and i dont't think beating a kid is right. you should not beat there a**, that is like so wrong.
Name: Bec
Country: Australia
 all children need a role modal for example britney spears
Name: Zara
Country: England
 i think that different children need different discipline, tailored to their personality. my son responded to just a raised voice, for example, whereas my daughter only responded to my slipper on her bottom (or the threat of it). she's 14 now and so too old for the slipper, but it certainly did the trick in her younger years and now she is very well behaved.
Name: julie
Country: USA
 i dont think that you should spank your child all the time.but there are some children that no matter how you talk to them they still rebal.so what do you do for kids like this...
Name: linsi.kearney
Country: England
 this a graet site, thankyoum for all your help
Name: G.Bush
Country: USA
 i have 2 children, and currently i slap when they are rude or misbehave, many people tell me i should hit them hard but i dont know what to do.. what do you think of a cattle prod?
Name: Victoria Boswell
Country: USA
 when i had my first child i was very strict. now that i have three i find myself overlooking a lot of things they do. my husband says i let them get away with everything.
Name: Talisa Warnes of Alex Hills,Brisbane
Country: Australia
 tracy moore, why should you have to beat up your kids to get there attention. i'm 16 years old and i do believe in discipline but beating up your kids is wrong, if you want your child's attention talk to them in a nice way not beating there ass. what about if you fully bashed up your kid and killed it. have you ever really considered bashing up your child/chilren. by the way that is considered child abuse. have a think about it before you actually kill an innocent child
Name: Jiajia
Country: Other
 as for me, i think that it is indeed necessary for parents to discipline their children and it is also feasible for them to resort to certain moderate punishment when a child misbehaves. 1. parents have duty to teach kids right from wrong and justifiable punishments are more or less useful. 2. a moderate punishment is probably to teach children a lesson and to prevent similar mistakes from reoccurring.
Name: mv
Country: Other
 as my father always said "i discipline you becasue i love you and someday you will thank me for it." and it turned out right.
Name: Jessica
Country: USA
 i feel that to spank a child as long as you limit it to three swats is okay. i feel that if you beat a child it only shows that child that when all else fails resort to violence. we need to remember as adults we still learn new things on a daily basis so think of how simple a childs mind is. they don't need to simply learn that what they are doing is wrong but why and what would be a more appropriate action for them. what do we expect of children with all they they are exposed to? we can not shelter them, but we can teach them how to be productive well centered adults who can funtion and know the difference between right and wrong. we also need to teach them how to deal with and solve any problems they come across in a way that is posotive.
Name: meaza
Country: Kenya
 i believe in spanking a child especially if he or she is a rebellian.
Name: dr.n.sivakumar
Country: India
 bach flower therapy is a good solution for all behavioural problems. with proper usage of correct flower remedy one can transform the negative unwanted qualities from a child to its opposite positive quality.
Name: Neco.Fresien
Country: Canada
 this to all of you my be to what you think , but it's very important and a cool site to look for information , thank you .
Name: Lauren
Country: Australia
 i believe in spanking your children every now and then, not because you are angry or have had a bad day but if they are miss behaving and you have tried everything else and they just wont stop. the government and other people complain about how children/adolescence these days are getting worse and worse but they are actually the people whom, took away a parents ability to disipline their own child. now by that i dont agree with bashin a child is correct and who ever does that should be sentenced to jail because it is plan wrong. but a little slap on the bottom or a tap on the hand and a very stern no!!! or if you do that once more is enough most of the time for me. you should have the choive on whow to disapline your child as long as you are not belting the hell out of them and they are told why they are getting spanked. i dont have any children but i have grown up in a large family and have a lot of siblings whom spank (some of the time) their children sometimes it does work other times it does not! i find when i growl at the children and say now i have told you 2 times if i have to say it a 3rd time you will go to time out or your parents will come have to have a chat to you it generally works! i have never spanked (slapped) or even hurt one of my neice's and nephew's once mind you i did pinch my younges neice as she threw a ball at my face and was being cheeky but once i piched her on the arm (gently i might add) she stopped it immediately and hasnt mis behaved since! i think it is the individuals choice whether to spank or not to spank!
Name: Aimee & Jake:)
Country: Canada
 i'm currently sitting in a 5th period class on a friday afternoon, and some of these comments made me laugh, so thankyou for making the time pass by faster. however, some of your comments i hope are truley just jokes. or there really are some sick sick stupid people out there. come on people, dont hit your kids, its not worth the jail time.and it teaches them violence, we have enough problems in this world lets atleast keep our homes happy places
Name: Nsonge
Country: zambia
 i think spanking to disciplne is ok. do not spank to make your child bleed.most of african children are well bahaved because of their parents's discipline. when i went to the usa,i witnessed a 3years old child swearing and stamping his feet so angrily. i'd never let my child go beyond such an extrem. abusive language should not be tolerated especially to a growing toddler. come to afirca and you'll see what am talking about. don't spank to kill but in moderation and not every time. a child should feel and know that you really mean spanking when you're giving a warning. do not spoil your children it's better you do the disciplie yourself than taking your child to a concentration camp.
Name: Clarice
Country: usa
 i came to this site to get help with discipline. instead i got everyones point of veiws on whether it's right or wrong. how about some helpful advice? thanks to the few that did give helpful advice.very few!!
Name: jyothi
Country: india
 i think what uve given can be told a child who is 6 or 7 years old but how to deal with child who is 2plus and hyper active let me know
Name: Michelle
Country: usa
 i believe that spankings are for certain punishments like, going into the rode, or kicking and screaming at you for no reason, so i give them a reason to cry by spanking and sometimes that is not enough. i then will go a little further by taking their toys away for a week at a time or longer. a real key to parenting a rebelious child is to be patient and put them in a room to throw a fit and soon they will relize that being all alone is not what they want so they will start behaving, and you have to remember that not all children are the same so find out what works for you.
Name: jajoo2 .a
Country: latvia
 i believe every family have the right to punish their kids when it is nessacery
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