Most of a toddler's actions are aimed at attracting your attention.She will behave in an increasingly willful manner in an attempt to assert her independence.This must not be taken as being disobedient.Dealing with a naughty or disobedient child needs extreme patience.
My child is moody and
disobedient
Most of a toddler's actions are aimed
at attracting your attention. Thus, she may try speaking to you, crying,
hitting you or annoying you. She is not particular whether the attention
is positive or negative as long as she can catch your eye. Once you respond
to her, she will smile or laugh at you. She will behave in an increasingly
wilful manner in an attempt to assert her independence. Do not thwart her
attempts at independence at every stage, although it may express itself
as disobedience. This can lead to her developing a negative attitude in
the future. Your baby will have frequent mood swings veering between extreme
displays of affection and anger. The good news is that your child will
become more participative in play and this is a good opportunity to teach
them to share.
How do I deal with
a naughty child
A naughty child is one who knows
the difference between right and wrong, but lacks the maturity to exert
self-control and do the right thing. They are usually apologetic and contrite
when caught. However, often you will find that they are doing the exact
same thing you had scolded them for doing just an hour ago. You have to
be very patient with naughty children. Initially, you should try the sympathetic
approach, speaking to them frequently. If this fails, punishment becomes
necessary. Corporal punishment is not an option. Restricting or withdrawing
privileges is much more effective.
My child does not seem
to listen to me
A disobedient child is one who deliberately
flouts authority. Children like this really try your patience. A disobedient
child is rarely contrite or apologetic. His defiance leads to confrontations.
Remember that physical punishment is likely to lead to aggression and truculence
on his part. A programme that is a combination of reasoning and positive
reinforcement is recommended. Explain to the child that her activities
are anti-social or dangerous and suggest how she should behave.
Is my child being particularly
difficult
This is the time you will probably
realize why this stage has been referred to as "the terrible twos." Nothing
seems to be easy any more. You and your child just do not seem to understand
each other. Your child is trying to spread her wings a little bit for the
first time. She will constantly waver between asserting her independence
and seeking your approval. She will become frustrated trying to do things
for herself too soon. She will not allow you to help, although she may
need your assistance. She will probably bite off more than she can chew
in her quest to take charge of her life. This is an exasperating experience
for you as you walk the fine line between encouraging her to be self-reliant
and laying down the law.
Name:
Meenakshi Singh,
Country: India
My little one is 1.6 months now.since i m working i dont get much time to spend with him.to tackle his naughtiness i never hit him or scream at him.i simply put things in order and ask him to do the same way with his toys.this way he has started bieng organised since the kids of his age imitate things and learn from them.
Name:
Rishita,
Country: dubai
yes its very true. even my son is very moody. we have to keep trying different tricks to please him.
Name:
Rashmi,
Country: india
my daughter is two and she is very naughty despite understanding good or bad!but fortunately she comes around and says sorry after i punish her.it's very true that children nowadays do need smaking here and there
Name:
Cyn,
Country: usa
i have an almost 5-yr old boy who does not want to mind me at all; this has been a challenge ever since he was born. whenever i discipline him, he seems to think it is ok to hit and scream at me. we are seeking some outside help finally, because all children, when growing up and learning right from wrong, get upset. but our son should have outgrown this by now. please say a prayer for us.
Name:
Anon,
Country: england
i think that your article is interesting & useful although i don't understand why others have to write such filth & ruin the nature of this site
Name:
katie,
Country: netherlands
i have read through the views on this webpage and think some people are completely sick. although you were probably having a sick laugh you should definately grow up. there are people in this world that had had terrible things happen to them and i don't think you have the right to make fun of other peoples problems.
Name:
Darshana,
Country: india
spanking should not be allow because it teaches children to hit back and effect children's because it teaches child to hit back and it effect child's behaviour.
Name:
Ashley,
Country: indonesia
child smaking is bad and people should use positive disipline with there voices
Name:
shivangi,
Country: germany
this article is very helpfull to me,,i m trying to follow dis,,but i guess i ve to be very kewl and clam,,
but it works,,,thanks
Name:
Min,
Country: usa
this is to cyn. my son is also almost 5yrs.old. we had alot of the same problems and feelings. he should of outgrown it by now. we found a condition called o.d.d. look it up online, it bet it will spark a light bulb for you. hope it helps. p.s the key really is consistancy and stay calm. they feed off your reactions.
Name:
leigh,
Country: england
my child is nearly 5 and she is agressive,impatient and screams,kicks and shouts im at the end of my teather what should i do?
Name:
hh,
Country: india
my son is also naughty so when hes bad i grab him by the ear bring him to a chair and spank and its very hardit leaves big hand prints him then his father whippes him. if he says bad words he gets all of that with a bar of soap in his mouth then i put him in his room then he has to write a letter to me and who ever he did the naughty thing to and it says why he did it
what he did
and what the consenquence is
Name:
henryetta,
Country: england
i think you are all sick, children dont deserve to be beaten
Name:
sue,
Country: usa
i have twin boys that are very naughty but sometimes i spank them, and other times i just laugh because it's so cute watching them grow and become somewhat independent. i let them explore and really just let them have fun. spanking is good sometimes but joining in what they are doing will help you understand why they do the things they do. everything is so new to them, let play with the pots. they grow up really fast, we'll have time to punish them when they understand what they are doing wrong. at 18 months, my boys are just exploring.
Name:
Sara,
Country: usa
i have a 6 year old niece that has been through a lot of trauma, and she seems to take it all out on my family and her single mother. she doesn't listen very well, take baths, brush her teeth, or brush her hair. i really don't know what to do. please email me if you have an answer as: froggi62585@yah oo.com
Name:
a mother of 2,
Country: england
excellent advice if only people would listen.children these days have to much telly watching and not enough other stimulation,like walking.also they have forgotton ow to play they need computers etc,whereas when i was young like many of you i spent hours collecting bits and pieces like empty bottles etc to play shop with my friends.kids need to be taught how to use their imaginations again to prevent boredom which leads to naughty behavior and crime in later life.i know this as my daughter who is 5 has been really trying and i often cried because i felt i couldnt cope but i got really good help and took all the advice i was given on board.rating for this site is excellent.
Name:
The Beaten,
Country: england
i was smacked as a child.
now i beat people up for a living. if the people you love are capable of inflicting physical pain they detach your emotions. sure you just might learn respect. more likely to learn to bottle up your resentment develop anger management issuse be unable to relate to peers and make suitable social connections. might as well just buy them a gun and teach them to climb clock towers. smacking is only an indication of a parent without the necessary social skills or intellegence to be a parent in the first place. if you smack your child your legacy will be violence. nice going mom/pop! learn to deal with your own anger. learn the skills you need to control your kids. read a book and stop taking advice from crack pots with enough time to post drivvel on noticeboards. must go now have to break a guys knee-caps. happy smacking wackos!
Name:
Tiffany,
Country: usa
my son will be 3yrs old the end of feb. i am a 18yr old mom. which i have my mom and dad here with me, but he is one, how do i put it, wild youngin. he does the opposite of what i say to do all the time. spankin, switching, or timeouts does nothing. it might sit him down for at least 5 minutes but he will be back up doing it again. i tell him that he dont need to be doing this and that and talking to him but he will get mad and start hitting me, i spank him, and he will hit me again. i was just woundering if anyone knew if that was abnormal or was it just a typical 3yr old. i just want at least 2 yrs to pass by so he will listen a little better. i hate to see him getting kicked out of preschool. which he loves kids, going to church, writing, drawing, and etc. but from experienced moms out there the question is for yall.. is it going to get better ? or is it just out for the worst?
Name:
concerned sane parent,
Country: england
im very dissapointed that some sad individuals think they have the god given right to put pathetic sick comments on this site that has been designed purely for parents with genuine worries about their children.one thing i have to say to you saddo`s grow up and get a bloody life.moronic prats!and to the people that created this web site and allow this rubbish to be displayed,i will certainly warn people against your website as i think most of the people who leave messages are sick sick sick,i don`t normally condone violence but give me 5 mins in a room with some of these twats and they wont be printing such crap again in a hurry.from a normal well balanced mother.
Name:
abc,
Country: usa
article is too brief ... more helpful tips should have been there .. not really satisfied.
Name:
BOB,
Country: usa
i have 2 defiant twin girls.they are 13.
i ask them to clean their room and they say no.i need help on how to discipline.
Name:
StrictMom,
Country: usa
i don't think a good spanking ever hurt anyone permanently. until about the age of 12 i got spanked for misbehaving. i spanked my kids..over the knee with pants down till they were about that age. they are both sucessfull mature adults who discipline their children in the same way. only for really bad behavior..it works!
Name:
Anna,
Country: italy
every kid needs a good spank once in a while! we should only use our hands, not a belt or spoon or shoe or anything else like that. and just lightly on the bare bottem, on the hand has no effect. i usally count to 5, if lisa (my 7 year old) dosent stop behaving badly buy then, she gets her bum smacked.
Name:
tracy,
Country: united kingdom
children should be treated with respect and only then will parents gain respect. they are innocent human beings and dont see right from wrong.sit down wth your kids and talk to them instead of shouting at them. your anger only rubs of on them.it does work!!!
Name:
Broadswordbadger,
Country: united kingdom
has anybody made the connection between education and corporal punishment? some of the people posting within this forum seem to be barely literate. these same people are advocating physical harm to children. i'm shocked, appalled at terms such as "whip" "belt" and "switching" - which, through my rudimentary knowledge of north american "english", i believe means to beat with a stick. do correct me if i'm mistaken. get a grip. we're adressing problematic children, not dogs. there seems to be a raging beast inside some of you. that's what needs taming, along with admitting that many of you need to find professional help, preferably parenting classes.
the article i read on the preceding page was insightful. i agree with abc of usa; more helpful tips would be useful. i echo and applaud the sentiments of the beaten, of england. however, after trawling through this page of vitriol, i wonder if it may have been a primer in order to capture the ip addresses of paedophiles and familial child abusers.
