Children's need to play has lead to the development of a booming toy industry.Children often know what is best for them and that we as a parent should take the trouble to observe what they really want and need.
My child doesn't
play with his toys
Children's
need to play has lead to the development of a booming toy industry. Today,
parents are confronted with a bewildering array of toys, each more interesting
and well-packaged than the other. As a result, they inevitably end up spending
quite a bit of money trying to make their children happy. However, they
often find, to their surprise, that the child may not be quite as enthusiastic
about his new possession as they thought. After a casual glance or a bang,
he may not show any interest at all.
I recently
bought a little Snoopy dog for Rs .300. Although it is sturdy and attractive
my one-year-old son does not admire it at all. We also bought an expensive
squeeze toy, again with disappointing results, although toy manufacturers
claim it helps in hand co-ordination and grasp. But, my child is really
not interested in it.
My child prefers
to play with old and used things
On the other
hand, he is more excited by used plastic shampoo bottles, kitchen items
like spoons, egg beaters, pens, soap boxes, biscuit wrappers, cello-tape
roll, woolen threads, scissors and just about any thing he can get his
hands on. Some of these are discarded items, which will find their way
into the dustbin. I was wondering why I should waste hundreds of rupees
on toys that create no interest at all. Perhaps, child psychologists could
explore this topic further! I checked with a couple of other parents to
know whether this is true of their children also. I found that they also
had often bought expensive toys, sometimes with no encouraging results.
The practical
approach
Certainly,
all these toy companies must have put in lot of effort and money to create
newer and newer toys every year. They will also be disheartened to hear
about it. According to psychologists, toys are not just playthings but
are supposed to aid mental growth and development. This is especially true
for children between the ages of six months to three years. There are now
toys suitable for one-day-old children to 12-year-old children in the market.
However, I feel that by sheer common sense we can infer a few things from
our children's behavior.
First, the
child requires some thing that he can easily manipulate and handle. Soap
boxes, shampoo bottles, biscuit wrappers, etc. all fall into that category.
Yes, may be they are not toys in the strictest sense, but the children
are quite happy playing with them. The Snoopy dog that I brought is certainly
heavy.
Second, in
my opinion, the children may be unable to relate to many of the toys as
they are not inherently Indian, but draw their inspiration from the West.
There may be
another compelling reason. When children throw or bang expensive toys on
the floor or walls, we try to prevent them from doing so either because
it is costly or because we want them to know that it's expensive. Some
parents even lock such expensive toys inside cupboards. That is why we
find so many toys intact in houses where children have grown up.
Most often
I find that toys made by little known or small-scale units become favourites
of our children. Anyway, this piece is not intended to discourage any discerning
parent from buying toys made by multinationals or to prove that locally
made toys excite children more than others do. But this is only to remind
parents that children often know what is best for them and that we should
take the trouble to observe what they really want and need.
Name:
Maya.Metha
Country: India
Good article, true to life
Name:
maya
Country: India
The best way to tackle this situation is to take membership in a toy library, where you can rent toys and see if the kid like to play with it. Exchange this toy when the child is bored of it. This way the child will have a variety of toys to play with and you hardly invest anything, moreover there is no clutter around the house. We have a toy library in Hyderabad, named Rentoys, offering variety of toys for kids of age 0-6 yrs. the web address is rentoys.in
Name:
Ranj
Country: India
parents buy expensive toys to their children, throw lavish birthday parties on the child's 1st or 2nd birthday! is this for the child really? or to flaunt the status of parents? when we were children, most of us would've had 1 or 2 favourite toys, because we had only that 1 or 2. i dont mean to say that parents should not buy many toys, but must be judicial in what (and how many) they buy for the child.
Name:
sue
Country: India
my daughter plays with both toys and plastics, paper and so on. i have read somewhere that the child expresses their curiosity by touching and hearing sounds. so, while as an adult we get a head-ache, the child is learning the different sounds by banging different things on the floor, table, etc. toys are great but they could also be overwhelming by their color-brightness, too many sounds and so on. let your child play with whatever he or she is comfortable with and they will go to toys when they are ready. this has been my experience so far.
Name:
Jayachandran
Country: India
yes, you are absolutely right.my son also like playing with household items like soap boxes, finished powder tins, pens , even news paper.
this sort of items helps the kid to enjoy his time as the way he likes as we dont interfere with don'ts.
Name:
zahia
Country: Middleeast
my one year old son likes to play with the hoover, the broom, and the bathroom chair. he does not give any attention to his toys.
Name:
Reddy
Country: India
very true. my son is 9 months old and only prefers to play with spoons and clips. amazing article. good job.
Name:
gautami k
Country: india
i feel toys r very important for childs brain stimulation. it keeps their brain busy. but they r very inquisitive about life itself so u cant expect them to play with 1 toy for months.i have seen quiet transition in my sons preferences. he is little more than 2. he liked mecano , building train building, then he started making tea as he sees me doing. now he is liking to see pictures from book and tries to read or just babbles as if he is reading.
i feel they explore things near them and wanna know as much they can.i perticularly avoid very costly toy as it surely does not impress kid for very long and later u feel it is all waste.