Hi Venkat,
These days there are so many counsellors available and as someone said it is not true that in india people dont seek the help from the counsellor..Actually you dont get appointment that easy ..There is one counsellor name BRINDA JAYARAMAN(you might see her in television interviews) she is good and her address is
Brinda Jayaramna
Anchor Self Help Access(ASHA)
#7, II Floor
Lavanya Apts,
CP Ramaswamy Road
Chennai-18
(in between Lifestyle and Mookambika complex)
PH-9840043239,55168433

and venkat,onemore thing ...whenyou go for counselling she will come up with so many questions and dig the past which will be bitter sometimes!!!! and if your problem is serious then you can seek someone you really can make realise where you are going wrong and how you can set it right..Any ways,
My Best Wishes to have a happy Life
GOODLUCK.

Hi SG

thank you very much. i will check up with them. This is really a great help to me. I posted this message in 3 groups of indiaparenting, where all these in laws issues are discussed and i have got a reply from a single.

however i find if any post related to topics like (hei... my mom in law is a witch or something... or hei.. ladies should be submissive ) gets more than 10 replies....

i do not want to hurt any one, but i sincerly feel that people here in this group can suggest solutions which can work like counselling or anything which they tried and worked.

regards
venkat

Dear Venkat
Its great to see you taking the initiative to take up the counselling route - Good luck and its a very positive step.

Here are two names I \" googled\" to come up with - I don't have any personal experience to vouch for them. Both are chennai based:

contact Saras Bhaskar on 244 6590/98412 33716
Dr. Brinda Jayaraman and Dr. Saras Bhaskar, Chennai's most reputed psychological counsellors with more than two decades' experience

Dr. Thara Srinivasan, marriage counsellor and Director, Schizophrenia Research Foundation, Chennai (SCARF).

Excerpt from a good article:

The men feel that the expectations of the women are immense, and they cannot please them however hard they try, despite a sizeable contribution to the family. They are under pressure to improve financial contribution, share in raising the children and provide emotional support to the wives. With tremendous pressure at work, the men suffer emotional exhaustion. The simpler role of husbands in the past decades has now been replaced with a more complex role. But the emotional needs of a woman are different: she wants a soul-mate, someone who can understand her needs, someone who is caring and one who will take care of her when she is unduly stressed.

The goal in a marriage is to become united in purpose and spirit, not to overpower and control each other. Couples that are already emotionally bonded have little or no trouble following this, because they have learnt how to behave in sensitive and caring ways in each of their life's roles. Couples emotionally distant have great difficulty accomplishing this goal, because they are accustomed to doing what they please, regardless of its effect on one another.

\" There is no perfect marriage and there never will be one - neither is it necessary to be so. All the fun will be lost if marriage is always sedate and predictable.\"

And in the words of Khalil Gibran, poet and philosopher on marriage:

. . . let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you
Love one another, but make not a bond of love
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup