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HI
I have been married for 5 years and have a one year old son and am pregnant again. we live in US. ours was a love marraige but got married with everyone's blessings we did not have any opposition
here is the twist to the whole tale.
our inlaws are visiting and both of them hate me.MIL does not want me to eat......and I wanna eat all the time due to pregnancy.she says relly hurtful things and my husband says she is a psychiatric patient and just put up with her since they will be leaving soon.
My husband does not want to hear anything against his folks even if they are trying to hurt me when I am pregnant.

I feel do I know him at all?how can he cahnge so much?my heart just breaks......... s replied. u should not care that much. the same prob was happening to me when i was pregnant but i told my hubby that if something wrong will happen to my baby then ur mom will be responsible for thatand try to ignore her just face them don't let them enter in ur life.
tejmom replied. eat well my friend. that comes first now because u have to give birth to a healthy baby. let me give u an idea. if she says that anything about you eating, immediately serve yourself more food and irritate her more. tell her you want to make something more delicious and eat. keep irritating her. pretend as if u r a buffalo skin. as u do that, she will understand u r making fun of her and you u care least for her rachel replied. You need to be the sole protector of your baby. Regardless if your mother in-law doesn't want you to eat, you better eat!....how you take care of yourself while pregnant really determines the way your baby will be when its born. Please tell your husband to go to any baby care class with you, or buy him some books about pregnancy and the importance of pre-natal care. Most of the time its \";ignorance\"; that causes these disputes. augustborn replied. Dear Rani
Congrats! May you have a safe labour & delivery...:)
Men for some strange reason behave completely different with their wives in front of their parents...
I had a bad dream last night...I dreamt that I am at my IL's place and my husband is behaving like a besoted mama's boy and ignoring me...the first thing which I did this morning was glare at him...hehe..that was a dream but may come true(heaven forbid)!!!
You are pregnant and your hormones must be playing havoc as it is and on top of that you have your psychiatric MIL to bear...my heart goes to you...
Just ignore her and take care of yourself...eat what you want...do what you want...Ignore them all royally!!!
It would be tough but remember that its your health thats imp right now...
Have you spoken with your husband how you feel and how it affects your health...Go out with your husband alone for a dinner or simply for a drive and in a calm tone, tell him about your feelings...See how he responds. He loves you but like all Indian(almost all)men cant stand up to his parents lest they call him 'joru ka ghulam'...its sad darling but true...
Hope we all raise our sons better...
You try to cheer yourself up and dont let such silly people spoil such a lovely experience as pregnancy for you.

Good Luck!