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Hi,

i' ve this issue of MIL & Unmarried SIL. Its a house built by my MIL' s own earning, so she shows more authority towards home, so does my SIL. They both control each household task, cooking, serving my husband food, coffee, to washing his clothes, etc. Since ours is love marriage, my hubby had told me earlier abt his care & concern for his unmarried elder sis (who' ll stay unmarried) and his mom, who has served a lot for him. I did not realise the consequences wil b aftr marriage, but now i repent agreeing to be good with his family.

I was basically working woman and after 2 yrs of marriage, am expecting now and stopped working frm 3 mnths, as i was very unwell. Now plan to not work for atleast 2 yrs to take care of baby, etc. Since i dont want my SIL to bcome guardian for my child in future, cooking, feeding etc to my baby, like how she does for my hubby, i want to live a bit away from them, atleast by building a house upstairs this house. I' ve discussed several times with hubby, but since he' s too attached wit them, he says there is benifit for me in enjoying whatever they cook & serve, as i wont b able to handle so many tasks myself, so that they' ll take care of my baby also when am working. But am completely against it, if v argue on this, it leads to mis understanding btn us.. So pls advice whats the most practical thing to do? We' re not financially that sound to go separate from our MIL' s house also.. but can afford a loan to build upstairs in future.. ritu replied. hey marina u dint tell me wat happened is ur hubby convinced o still the same
ritu replied. i think u should try to convince ur hubby that he has promised to be with u his full .. nw if u are not comfortable he should try to understand ur problem... make him understand the house will be upstairs onli, ul are not goin away from there .its jus that ur privacy