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Miscarriage and Child Loss:Lost my baby
2003-10-26
Name: deep



Hello everyone... till a week and a half back i was a regular at the november moms board... but 15th oct changed everything.

I was at the hospital for my regular check up at 36 weeeks. On checking nad rechecking through USG my doctor told me that my baby was no more. He couldn't explain how it happened. I was shocked out my mind. I thought - Does he know what he is saying?
But it was what had happened. It was very unexpected. During my previous check-up everything was as gfine as it cud be.
The following 4 days were really traumatic. The doctors were trying to induce pain but I just weren't getting them. They didn't want to go in for a c-section keeping in mind my chances of pregnancy in future. They were all very caring and supportive. Finally my baby came out on the 19th. It was then that we saw that the umbilical cord had tightened around his neck twice. I saw him lying there peacefully. My beautiful child. Left us for the heavens above. I cudn't bring out the courage to hold him. He looked just like his father.
The doctors said what happened was just like a road accident. Such things happen very rarely.
The only sign I cud say i had got was less of movements. But everyone told me that it was due to less of space. And since fluid had filled up inside the baby flaoted around and I mistook them for movements.
We were told that incase in such a situation where the baby has loss of oxygen even for sometime and if he wud have survived there were high chances of the baby having cerebral palsy or any other disorder. So maybe taking our baby away was a way of God to save us and our child from a lifetime of misery. Ofcourse at times these seem to be just ways of consoling oneself but now the fact is that our baby is not with us anymore.
Thankfully doctors say we won't have any complications with our next baby and with this experience behind us we will take a world of care.

We have come out of all this much stronger, much closer to each other and God.

May God Bless everyone. And may such a devastating experience not occur with anyone at all.

Deep
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2004-02-17
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Anonymous Name: lakshmi
Subject:  Sorry about whatever happened!



hi Deep,
Feel very sorry for whatever happened.
Go on with life normally though I know it's gonna be difficult.Keep yourself bright & cheerful.Keep you mind set positive.All this will help during the next time you conceive.
Love
Lakshmi
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2003-10-28
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Anonymous Name: asha
Subject:  very sorry



Dear Deep,

I can understand the sorrow you are going through. I pray God to give you strength to overcome this hard time. Please do take care of yourself.Meditation may help to ease the pain.
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2003-10-27
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Anonymous Name: sweety
Subject:  Have Faith in God



Hello Deep,

I can understand how you must be feeling this time. I don't know what to say. How could God be so cruel. It's very hard to accept this truth. But, it's not in our hands.

Just have faith in God. One of my cousin
sister lost baby boy like you just 1 day before delivery date. I lost my pregnancy in 10th week. I still cry for that. Just beleive in God.

I am always here for you. Please take good care of yourself. This is very important at this pont of time for your future pregnancy.

Baby dust us all.
Luv
Sweety
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