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Hi, I am married for 5 yrs and expecting baby in 4months. I came to know that my husband is cheating on me with other girl from past 2yrs. We had many fights because me suspecting on him, but i use to realise may be i am just doubting on him. but 1 week back i realised that he has been lying to me and he has relationship with that girl. Mine was love marraige against parents wish.. I love my Husband a lot, i want him to come back to me. That girl knows me very well and she even knws i am pregnant. my husbands behaviour is changed totally now, he never shows his love or care for me. this girl has changed him completely.. my friends are asking me to wait and not to take any action saying that he will realise one day and come back to me. but i dont want to take risk.. can anyone help me or suggest me what should i do. Mel replied. First of all, it' s sad to know about your current situation.

You married against your parents wishes, but are you on good terms with your parents now ? Or still estranged ? Are you working ? Or dependent on your husband ?

Your friends are asking you to wait indefinitely for what ? The possibility of him returning ? And what if he eventually decides to leave you, and marry this other girl ? Stop being complacent. Think about your child. If your husband was indifferent to you, but still caring towards you, it would mean that he probably doesn' t love you, but is concerned for his unborn child. If he shows no degree of care or concern for you, it also means he doesn' t really care for the baby. In that case, it would not make sense to stick around and wait for a possible change of heart.

If you are not working, try getting back in touch with your parents, and move out of your marital home as soon as possible. If you are working, then move away, and start living independently. Even then, contact your family and try to make peace with them (if you haven' t already).

If you leave, your husband MAY start feeling your loss, and there MAY BE A POSSIBILITY OF HIM TRYING TO GET BACK WITH YOU. But, if you just stick around and hope he comes back, it may lead to a situation where you will be nowhere.

I know it is easier said than done. But, please move away. And stay away from him. Break all contact. And then... let nature take its course.