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Hi friends..I m married for 5 yrs and have a one year old baby. Mine was a love marriage. Though we like each other lots we r opposite in taste, nature. I m very romantic but my hubby is totally opposite. I understood him and started to like his tastes. He knew me well and my taste but is not ready to give up...I changed a lot for him but not even a single time he has given his appreciation to me...Many a times I wud feel bad of this but then I cud overcome this..
The main problem with him is he is not able to move well with my parents. We often fight only due to these issues. There were few incidents from my parents side which made him unhappy. But then he feels that they have committed a SIN like and often fights with me for that.
He will be in a very good mood and start conversing nicely but finally he vl land up in that issue and shout at me and start a fight.
I have told him so many times that I respect his feelings and let him do as he like with my parents but not fite with me..
They r my parents and I love them a lots and daily I m not able to hear bad words abt them from him.
Whatever his parents do he is able to forget n forgive...
In fact my parents have supported us a lot of times and they r nice to him even though he has not reciprocated..
I told him many times for our happy life we shud keep the relations as they r and live happily our own life..
He is not ready to forget that and keeps on opening up often thereby causing a fight between us.
I m not expecting him to be of my likes but atleast be matured in dealing with certain issues. I love him lots n want to lead a happy life with him.
People cannot bhave as we like. So we have to accept them. I have explained and talked to him but when he gets angry thats it. Previosuly I used to defend my parents but nowadays I keep quiet but he is not ready to change. I fear that what I will do if he continues like thus lifelong..
I m highly upset with this and worrying too much and feel like I shud move away from him but due to my kid couldnt do anytg.
Ofcourse I understood him more now than before and tries to be cooperative with him but he will tempt me more and make me argue and finally blame me 4 evrytg.
Pls help me or suggest me to have a peaceful life with him.
Sorry I could not write shortly... Reena replied. Hi, I' m in relationship, my bf want to have sex, we had done lots of masturbation, but now he also want to do oral also some times he putes his finger int my vagina. is it all ok or i' m confussed please help me saptha replied. Dear Radha,

TRUE---tat each incident in our life teaches something
Honestly speaking both me and my hubby are undergoing a very bad phase in our life. A major thing that I wish shud not happen in anyone' s life.....
Now in this tough times only, he understood wat my parents are because THEY are the only people standing by us!!!!!
So DONT LOSE HOPE....Things will change for good definitely... saptha replied. Not Surprising at all!! Normally men are like that. I am married almost now for 7 yrs and my husband was the same.
His attitude twds his family and my family was contrasting...
Now as years are passing by I see a lot of change in him. He never respected my parents then and I never asked him to do also. But I never changed my love twds them.
Today he respects my dad so much that I feel left out as he takes suggestions from my dad for all his decisions....
So, wat I say is have patience try ro win him out of your love....definitely will take time but U will SUCCEED!!! Anurag replied. Hi Radha.
Looks like you hav left no stone unturned in making ur husband understand.
I' m myself confused as what to suggest...you seem to hav already taken up all possible measures..and also looks like ur hubby is bent upon not changing.

However, I guess you will hav to bear up with him as u say u love him a lot and also hav a child.

One thing you can do is just try to avoid that matter alwayz, whenever it looks like he' s approaching that line, just back out beforehand.
Apart from this you can only plead him to understand ur feelings.

One other reason maybe that, u r being too soft with him, due to which he' s taken u for-granted. Try being a little harsh or strict. But dont evoke voilence!!

Do whatever suits u frm the above suggestions.