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Hi,facing lots of problem with ILWs.I know its not something very much different from other' s situlation.
Still would like to share somethng with u.currently am working in a mnc.husabnd is frm diffrnt sector and he is also as qualified as i am.the main problem i feel is my sister ILws and MILW.thy alws told in front of my husband that and am a very egoistic person and am not caring them.both sisters are married but some or the other reson thy r coming to my ILws house.Before marrg my husband promised me to get transfered whr i will b located.Now he is staying with his parents and saying official problm is thr and working in the same branch of his company.so after staying around 1yr outside alone n after lots of struggle currently am staying with my parents and working in a same branch of MNC i was with.My husband is loving caring but he wants i should alws be extreamly calm while talking to his siters and mother.I dont know ,somethng like if thy will scold also without reson i will juz listen.thy will tell sometnng very stupid and i will say yes.and thy will interfer in every case of my family and i will just listen to them.But i dont understand why.Sometimes am feeling like i have choosen a wrong guy.Or i dont understand him at all.what he wants.sisters are elder to me in age.BUt as my husband is eldest among all.But thy r treating me as if am the youngest and nothng for them.I cant handel it.Each weeknd thy r creating some problm when my husband wants to travel to my place.Plz suggest me how i should handel it.My MLW alws compare myself with thr daughter with thr dressing sence with thr attitude,with cooking habits.. n each and everythng.Both of my sister in laws r not working thr housewife and thy r attitude is ,as if am nothng in front of them .thr can do anythng when and what thy want .Jobs r just waiting for them to join.How funny is the situation !!!That thy start these discussions by themselves and end it by themselves.I never tried to argue with anythng but why these r happening.Only problem is when ever am trying to share this my husband he will start saying that ..\" u just hate us..and etc..\"

Please please suggest am very frustedted..I dont n wat i should do. PP replied. Hi Somya,
I understand its too difficult for u to take all this.
Somya in every relationship,we go forward by taking decisions in favour of either we want that relation to continue or to break that relation,right ?
As far as what i come to know is u love ur hubby and he also cares for u.
So many a times u have a tough time,when the person u love most is surrounded by the people u described above.

I suggest you that first try to have talks with ur hubby,convinced him that u both get marr not to saty apart,wht does it make sense to go in this way.
Ask him to get transfer, if it works its gud.
And if this not then u step up, and ask ur hubb that u would relocate but u both would stay seperate in same city so that he can take care of his mom n sis.......
Just try this soumya and let me know .....whats going on.I am here to help ou out.
I take online councelling sessions too, if u want it, u can ask ur hubby too, will discuss it in details .
Anyway just ping me ur updates.
Thanks
PP