Hi
My son is 2years and 8 months old. I leave him with the baby sitter and I will go to work.care taker is complaining that he will always go to lie down (not to sleep) and refuses to eat the food.
Why is it so ?
What should I do to avoid him doing that
I have left him with my mother in law when he was 9 months old and I was away from him completeley for 3 months after which I had Took him .Is this would have affected him now.
Me and my husband is very affectionate with him and we try to arrange our duty timings in such a way thaat we will be with him the maximum hours and the day when we both have to go to work at same time we will leave it to the care taker.
Are we pampering him too much and he is the only son for us so all our attention is towards him and my husband is extra protective that he will not allow him to do any thing of his own and he will go behind all his activities .Is this right?
when ever we go to park if he is playig in a swing and if he sees 3 children coming to play he will give way to them and he will walk away from there
Pls help and advise me Hetal replied. its quite true that your baby is feeling along and needs alot of kids around him..but at the same time, i would like to add in here that he needs your attention more than kids,you have to understand that he is mentally feeling alone and that everyone is leaving him,,,
try to spend as much as time you can and visit alongwith him to diff parks where there are lots of kids,,
pmapering does not cause this,,what causes is feeling of lonliness and your caregiver is not taking proper care of your child. you have to understand that a good caregiver knows very well how to divert baby mind and get him busy..also to add, that taking your child out atleast once a day, helps,,ask your caregiver to read to him, make him watch some good developmental programs,,make him visit nearby parks or so,,or collect neighbourhood kids and have fun..
if this goes on longer, you will find your kid to be a lonely person,,you have to understand that by 5 years your kids is growing mentally and will be developing his personality,,so to give him the maximum exposure to people,other kids and outer world is a must...and this can be done by you and your caregiver...
daycare is a very good idea, best fit for working parents,,mkae sure its licensed and there areother institutions that are called babygym or kidsgym,,,take your child there,,they teacha ll beautiful things therrein and your caregiver can accompany your child to that place,,and he can learn whats sharing, playing together is all about !
take care,good luck nishi replied. what tm said is true. your baby needs alot of children around him. take him to open parks and teach him to socialize. its high time for you to leave him with lots of kids around. tm replied. hai!!
This looks like he is longign to spend more time around u.in noway its wrong tht too for such a small kid it must be hard.
instead of leaving himwith a sitter,put him a good play school
there he will learn good habits,sharing,eating habits will become more better,he will find new friends.
most of all he will forget u guys attht time and will focus on people around him..he will learn things..basic foundation is the one tht build his attitude for his whole life.
right now all he wants is not a nanny to or u to pamper him,he wants people around him who will speak to him,motivate him,fight with him,love him,convince him.
even when u spend time with him encourage him to talk.let him do the talking.u listen.ask him to tell u wot he did the whole day.
this is just my suggesstion..i have seen moody kids turning into tailess monkey(just kidding,but very happy kids)in tht play school environment..
all the best
dont worry,
he is a smart kid.he will find his way to survive.