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Can somebody suggest a solution so that I can live an independent life with my child and husband? My in-laws who stay separately are not much interfering, I can manage them. but what do I do of my own mother who is alone, and elder bossing sister who think that they own my son, and take decisions about him. They are emotional, so I cant fight with them and settle the issue.

I dont want to leave my son with them, but I want to desperately go ahead for my career. cant leave my son in a creche, as my sister and mother will discontinue that by influencing my son.

These things are affecting my health. I feel, people who have issues with their in-laws can openly say. But what if your own relations are not understanding? mother replied. Search for the person who could influence your mother the best that person would be any of your relatives..... and speak your feelings to that person so this message would be convyed to your mother.... priya replied. Hi Piyu,
Its time for you to do some pretence,since you don' t want to hurt their emotions pretend as if you are following their instructions.Listen what they are saying without any ' buts' or ' ifs' and later do what pleases you.They may catch you doing so,then cover up saying your husband or your ILS decided to do so.If it does' nt work ask your husband to involve in this regard.Do not complain about them but put the problem before him and ask him to decide what both of you can do in this matter.Simply politely denying their offers should do the work coz' you just can' t let them take decisions for you and your son life long,afterall as a mother you know it better ,what' s good for him and what' s bad.Take care.