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hi all....

was wondering if i too could get suggestions here on this board.....

i got married 6 months back...and am in the US now.. 2 months after my marriage my hubby had to leave to US..and i joined him 3 months after he reached US...... these 3 months i was continuing my job in banglore.....and was stying alone.... my in laws r in hyd erabad and my parents are in mumbai.... after the marr i was in touch with my in - laws thru phone...my MIL generally calls once a week or if she does not then i call them....we generally update each other on wats happening etc.... she is pretty broad minded and generally does not make an issue of anything... now thr was an issue a month back for which i would like ur opininions.... i had my flgiht to US in jan end....and i resigned my job etc to join my hubby....my parents came to banglore to help me pack etc for the flight.... my fathers relatives had also come...for 2-3 days.... all of them were commenting on my in laws like why they did not come to see me off etc....actually the fact is i was there in their house for 1 week only after marr..then me and my hubby came to banglore.... they called me etc to say bye and give wishes etc... but they did not come...this became an issue in my family(my side) ... with everyone commenting why they did not come etc.... the truth being they had not come to see their son go to US also....he wnet met them and then left...but they did not come.. .. so wat i feel is their persoanlity is like tht... but my relatives and parents dont think so..they say i am theri responsibity etc. ..so they made an isssue..and i got carried away and asked my hubby this...from that day on we r not comfortable with each other....especially from my side.... i keep taking things in worong sense..... because i feel his parents were wrong.... but wen i ask my friends thay say its not a problem....my friends say my in laws are good that they did not expect me to go to see them etc ... they r jus leaving me freely... so now i wanted to know how to take things ahead with my hubby.... are such things common in married life.... before all this me and my hubby had a great life .... now i am upset....though he is almost ok..
pleas advice me .. thanks R replied. The issue you have mentioned is not an issue at all. Your friends are telling you right thing, that your in-laws didn' t tell you to come and meet them before you left. Surely they didn' t take that objection and giving you freedom.
I don' t even think that you should ask you MIL why she didn' t come to see you. This night spoil your good relationship. If your parents are pushing you, try to make them understand that this is not a big deal. Ecstasy replied. Hi ,

Be cool...this is not at all an issue....don' t think too much...Enjoy US with your hubby.

Just call your MIL and tell her if you would have come when i leave US that would have been great....ask her why you didn' t come....straight with love...don' t get in to echo....it all happen in married life. You need to handle it with your awarness, love and care.