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Hi, I am in a unhappy 6 yr marraige since I had my wedding. 2 yrs ago I separated from my husband as we had so many issues and he constantly accused me of having affair with my cousins, & my friends. As I come from a very orthodox Iyer family from chennai, my parents were totally against this as it wld be an insult to my father. When I was separated I had to live with my father and worked in a company. He cursed me a lot and beat me so that I would go and live with husband. As I got no support from family I went to talk to husband which resulted in getting pregnant. Thought I dint want any relation physical or mental, I ended up getting pregnant. I hated the fact that I was carrying my husband' s kid, but dint have heart to abort. When my kid was born, my father tried contacting me so that I Wld get a good wife/mom/daughter name. Through out pregnancy my husband gave me so many problems that I shouted cried begged everyday to leave me alone. Now, my mother has come to travel back to India with me. But thing is my husband is so good to kid but he clearly stated he doesnt like to be with me, also he said he wants to be with me so that i can be the WIFE and mom to the kid. I hate to sleep with him coz i feel like garbage after the fact. He knows that but still used me before ( resulted in pregnancy ).. even now my parents dont wanna get involved or help me jus in emotional way. All i want is someone from my family to help me emotionally and tell my father that She had had enough. My husband treats my mother well, he gets everything for her, he tries to alienate her from me so that they wont help their daughter and say bad things about the perfect son in law.. its all show from his side as he is not like that at all. He chks my mails, phone calls, and monitoring everything. I want to go for divorce. But i dont know how to explain my kid in the future or how his life wld turn out. If i stay in this marraige for the sake of the kid, it wll definitely ruin him coz i dont want my kid to see husband & I fighting. Even now my parents think my husband is the best guy in the world and they hate the fact that I dont wanna live with him. they think kid will solve the issue, but thats not happening. Please any help, suggestion are welcome.. Just want somebody to support me emotionally.
sathi replied. hi better u take divorce and live happily Vas replied. I can Understand your situation be brave. These idots think they are street smart. Keep your mind cool and think about how to expose his true colors to your family and I am sure they will support you. Before that yu need to be on your legs. Try to get some job where you can support your self. Concentrate on you first lucky replied. this might sound dumb but u could try ... why dont u date someone and see if u r in the position to like someone else. if u do.... rest all will set in their places.