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well guys, heres the update....first of all im still pregnant, due date is next week, but it can happen any day now!!

My husband is ' talking' to me. Like almost normally. One of his cousins, a girl thats been married for 3 years talked to him, her husband talked to him as well, and I think this was the first insight he got into how he is being a control freak.
He still just wanted me to obey him. To listen to him. THinking he had all the answers. But FINALLY someone was like, come on, are you serious. If he wanted a submissive wife, he could have gotten one. But he got me....and there is no way I can be some ' follower' . I know what a husband is, and how we should respect EACH OTHER.

He goes back and forth, between being controlling, to opening up a little bit. But I am having the HARDEST time in the world being normal with him. He thinks all is well, and things will go back to normal. But thats impossible. His parents were saying they were gonna come here when the baby was born. Now when I talked to MIL a few days ago, she says its going to be hard to come because it will be hard for my FIL to travel. I know he isnt in the best of health. BUT he is in MUCH better shape. I don' t like saying they are making excuses....but I know how he is doing, and there is NO REASON they should NOT come. I mean, to see their grandson??? Isnt that important enough? BUT what is their REAL reason, because they know, my parents, my uncle, my FIL' s brother, they all know about this problem and are basically taking ' my side' , and they all live in my area.
So of course if they come, there is gonna be a huge talk. It' s unavoidable.

Anyhow, back to the husband. I' m trying to be ok, but I can' t be. I mean, he' s asking more about the baby. He just has the BIGGEST EGO problem. I' m kind of getting sick and tired of it actually. But then again, I have to be the ' good indian girl' and keep going. Chandra replied. hey malini
i know what to focus on..believe me...i just like to write out things. it helps when someone just reads it and responds. makes me feel better:)

only a few days away! baby should be here soon...unless im overdue..which i think i will be...sigh..

cant wait! Malini replied. Writing to you once again. Give birth...focus on the upcoming events and then once you cross that bridge then you can focus on your relationship. Right now you have a lot of things going on in your life and your hormones are haywire...I can tell that from you frequent posts and you are writing the same thing over and over again.

Relax...look forward to your delivery...think happy thoughts of holding your baby in your hand and forget about ur husband and his issues for a chance. This is your moment :)