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I am a woman living in the US for the last 10 years. I have 2 kids. My husband died in an accident 3 years ago when 2nd born was just 4 months old.

Last year I met a man through a friend. He fell in love with me as a person from the first day we spoke but I was still mourning my loss and was not even willing to think about anyone else. You know you feel like you are betraying your husband even though you know he will never return to you :) So this man and I just had a platonic relationship. After 1 year he is still devoted to me and he was good with my children and I have developed feelings for him and I told him that.

On easter weekend we went away together with my kids and he proposed to me and I accepted. Now my main worry is that I have not been with a man for 3 years. I am so afraid to have sex with this man...I am actually terrified to be honest. I have stretch marks on my stomach and I get worried that when he sees me naked he will get a bitter disappointment and find me so unattractive. I am in such a dilema please help me out :( maya replied. I agree with Rose. He seems to be broad minded person. u may talk to him hinting how anxious n uncomfortable u r feel abt having a physical realtionship after so many years. he will understand as he seems to be broad minded. hear his responses abt this topic, may be he too is scared n doubtful like u ! dont worry abt ur body marks. most of the females have it after delivery. treat ur scars at a parlor or something,do best to look attractive but dont worry much abt how will u look sans clothes. good luck dear, i wish u will have a happy n fullfilling relationship with this man. rose replied. Hello,
I' m sorry for your loss... but it is nice to know you have moved on.. well life is all abt moving on.

Its nice to know you have found a man who understands you and is ready to marry.. he should be a man of good heart and a broad minded person. Plz dnt worry abt your physical apperance if you love that person and he feels the same abt you... these things dnt matter...best thing would be talking one step at a time,you could also talk to him abt the way you feel abt your phyiscal apperance with him..with break the ice between you guys.

Just be confiden and all that matters is that you both love each other.