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I know this may not be the right place to post this but since it is women' s issues and I am a woman and kids are a big part of our life and issues I want some guidance and help from some moms and dad.

My daughter used to go to a small creche to a lady and it was a small group of 6-8 children last year. Now that she turns 3 next month, I have put her in a lovely, Montessori school. At the orientation party she was fine, very secure and confident the 1st three days of school were fine too. But now it' s as if the honeymoon period is over because as off yesterday she has been crying during \" good byes.\"

Today she was consistently asking for me and they called to say she was very unhappy the whole day asking for me every now again and if I could come early to fetch her which I did.

On coming home she says she doesn' t want to go to school and no matter how positive and reassuring I make it sound to her that school is great blah blah blah and the fact that I will drop her, sit with her for a while, then leave and come back in a few hours to fetch her she says no. She wants me to spend the whole day with her there. I am assuming from this that she has absolutely no problems with the school she enjoys herself but her insecurity is of being there alone. Ofcourse I realise that it is a big change for her to go to a bigger school.

Is there any way I can make it work for us. The school doesn' t mind me spending the day with her there until she gets used to it but I am working and I can' t take time off to spend the entire morning with her. I really don' t know what to do if any one of you can help me out. Thanks ST replied. Hi,
It seems clear that your little girl does NOT hate the school!
All she needs is friends & people to look out for in the school. In short she needs to make friends.
It might be a good idea for you to mingle with kids & moms of other kids, may be invite some over to your home for a playdate or go do some activites together.
If she sees you talk/mingle with other parents she might start feeling @ home & settled in the new school.
Kids always prefer to bring home ro relate all their expericiense to their parents
Instead of making her feel that is a choice that she has to make between YOU or the SCHOOL..it would help to merge 2 or treat school like a continuation of your home
I had somewat simialr experience when my son was your daughters age..
I started talking about all his friends @ home , made friends with other parents ,just pick the pone & talk to the other parents etc makes the kids feel comfortable & happy.
Hope I made some sense