Dear Hetal,

Im having 7 months old baby , who is able to sit with my support , she can rolled over both sides .. the problem is one of my friend's baby he can sit unsupported and ready to walk( also 7 months) and he is drinks using sippy cup and know how to chew etc and he is chubby and fat baby ... My worry is i also wanted to see my baby doing all those things in earlier stage , but she is little bit slow and weight wise she in on the lower side ... Hetal is my baby doing the right thing for her age .. And is there any possibilities to make them read at the early age ? And im also try to feed solids 3 times a day , but not successful , have to miss any of the meal time , because some times she sleep for a longer time , so cudnt make it .. Is that ok ? hetal im planning to start rice and dhal for dinner , how do i cook the dhal , can i use thor dal or someother dal .. Pls advice ...

saumya replied.
Thank you so much for ur advices , hetal i feel much better after reading ur replies :) ... i know i did a mistake by comparing my baby with others ... So far i gave sweet potato and carrot .. I tried bread soaked in formula milk today , but she do like she's vomiting , can u pls tell me some food menu that i can try for my baby ... Hetal im really sorry for asking lots of q's .. and if u dnt mind can u suggest some good books that useful to teach the baby..

Thanks ...

Hetal replied. i understand the concerns. but since every baby grows differently you cannot compare them. its not that as a mother,you can stop doing it, but practically speaking also its not advisable. by doing so, you are actually questioning yourself and your baby about the wellbeing of the health & her growth. and that will not only make you do less efforts towards your baby but also you will keep feeling miserable whenever you see other babies excelling in their own capacities.after everything you will end up just feeling bad about yourself that all...do you want to do that !
no right,,then,,forget about what others babies are doing,concentrate on whats your baby doing,,if your dr is happy, your baby is playful, everything is goin good then why botherr.
sorry if i hurt you in any of my words. but being mom, you will keep facing it thru out the life whnever you will see any baby,,even though if he is not good still that feeling will never leave you..
again,weight has nothing to do with acheiving milestones.also, drinking with sippy cup, chewing food has nothing to do with developing faster.its all babies preferences..some babies who walk,run, sometimes dont know how to chew foods ! they drink soupy foods at 1 year,,guess how it feels to hear from a mother of 1 year old that my baby run, has all his teeth but they arent yet able to eat solids! i have seen those too ! and i have seen on their faces how they have felt. it feels bad.

your baby is doing the right thing that is just RIGHT FOR HER to do at this point of time.

about reading, babies dont recognise letters, words until 2 years of age..but they do understand signs,pictures and emotions or expressions..teach that..get some nice big picture books, teach her by repeating the same words, everytime his eyes fall on them,,they will try to speak them !
and let me tell you, its not always that body wins ! mind is more powerful than body is,,and you cannot control functions or rather developments of body,,but you can always develop a mind to the level you want..its all upto you..
at 7 months,3 times meals looks good to me.

try maintaining a good sleeping, eating and playtime schedule for your baby...try playing with her if you think by sleeping she is goin to miss her feeds,,its ok play with her, she is baby and mother knows how to divert her mind ! she cant win you..
if still she is not a baby who sticks to schedule, whenever she sleep, try to feed her regular feeds before her sleep,,, and whenver she misses her feeds, i guess she must be really hungry after she wakesup,,give meals in that way,,,keep her meals ready, as soon as she finishes one meal,this way you will always be ready on the call whenever she is hungry.at 7months, you can give her rice and dal,,its good to give,introduce her variety of foods, for introducing avoid toor dal,its heavy and very gassy.. start with whole moong water, then moongdal water and then toor dal..once you have given all dals, give her mixed dal poridge.mix all dal, and add rice,some vegies and whistle it in cooker with water the way you make rice,,great meal good to go.slowly increase the consistency of more dal than just dal water or rice in porridge....but not much or thick that baby cant drink or eat with rice or gets too heavy.
again i want to tell you,,never make a mistake of comparing your baby. always remember, all babies are unique and are gods gift.
its upto you to understand their potentials and bring them up ! for some mothers its a pride to show their babies skill physically,,make up your mind to accept it and welcome it..they will stop doing it,once they see you are welcoming it and i would say love your baby multiplied by 100 when you see such friends,,see the responses..
sorry if i wrote a bit more on comparing but from your message i felt that you had that feeling bothering in your mind,,just tried to remove it !

so good luck and you take care
Hetal