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I have been married for 8 years and from the beginning, i have had to sacrifice. I sacrificed my education, my friends and my freedom. I really feel miserable inside, although I know this is partly my fault for giving without a fight. My reason was because I thought my in-laws were good people. I have begun to realise that they manipulated it to look like it was for my benefit. I now know, it is only to theirs. I want to leave but I have nothing to fall back on. My husband is too scared of his parents to do anything. What should i do? my mil fules the house. No one can do anything without her permission. tejmom replied. so what if u are married for 8 years? try to continue your studies even if u r old. do u know that among the doctors who complete mbbs go for pg studies at the age of 38 or 40. because it is not so easy to get pg seat so easily. where there is a will, there is a way. talk to your husband about all this. tell he has some responsibility towards you from the day of marriage and he has to prevent anybody insulting you in his family including his parents prerna replied. There is something i read that gives me a lot of strength -----
There are no victims only volunteers !!!
So please stand up smartly ,cleverly against your inlaws . Dont forget the past learn from it . you know your problems best so you are the best person to find the solution too .
Best of luck .
Advise replied. Hey unhappy,

Haven't u heard of the saying \";where there is a will,there's a way\";???? i am sure you are educated. Atleast a graduate if not a highly qualified. You can do so many things. Are u in India or abroad? If in India, there are so many jobs today that it is not not that difficult to get one. Update yourself with some computer courses and start working in some small place. Once u have some experience and confidence,u can look for a better job.

And don't worry about ur inlaws. U have a life too. tell ur husband that u need to do this for ur own sanity or you will breakdown or something like that. he will get the hint. Once u are independent, ur whole outlook on life will change. You will make new friends,have more financial freedom, and u r are not at home most of the time to deal with in-laws/relatives.