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Hi All,

I am a regular visitor of this board .. Today I am here to share with you all a strange trend thats going on in many cities. I am talking of Blore here.

I am married ...have a kid and working in MNC (software) from past few years and have developed very good friends both male and female.
Among many others there is one guy who is good friend of mine. He too is married.

We chat almost everyday(usually on messengers) ..abt day to day work or family or kid.

Couple of days back when we started chatting ..I was sharing how busy life is working,managing kid, his school and household work.Then suddenly he asked me what I do for fun. I said the usual I go out with hubby and kid, movies, eat out etc ... Then I asked him the same, and his answers shocked me ...

I think its his guilt that he shared this with me ...
He says he created a profile on networking website like fropper, then he got in touch with some female, who is married and has a 2 yr old daughter. She is a housewife and husband works for a reputed company. After chatting for few days and talking over phone couple of times, they planned to meet. He took her on a long drive to outskirts of Blore. Then I got curious and probed him some more. Asked where did she leave her child and what they did etc for which he said she brought her daughter along .. and the girl was sleeping in the back seat while he and that lady were having fun in the front seat .. They got involved physically to some extent aswell...

I felt so sick and dirty hearing this ... how could a mother take a kid that too a girl this way to meet some stranger and go to outskirts of the city in his car ?

On my being suprised he says its not such a strange thing .. Many married ppl date in Blore these days !
He is very normal , good , hard working guy doing very well in career just like many of ours husbands or brothers....

If such a person also can do such things .. Where is trust in life ?? I started to wonder who my hubby meets behind my back ??

Bottom line : I felt so yukky and disturbed listening to this .. what if my friends wife ever comes to know .. and I was so shocked at that ladys courage to trust some man she meets on net and decide to meet him that too taking her daughter along when we read abt rape almost everyday in paper !!

I couldnt share this with hubby as Qs like who told me all this will come up ..also I dont want to give him new ideas ...so decided to share this on this board

Thanks for reading .. Your comments are welcome.

Anonymous


Advisor replied. well, this is what I would call a mid-life crisis. Good career, enough money, nice, wife, kid, now what?? The road to attain that that brings so much excitement that after achieving all that, it feels so boring. One wants something more from the life.

People going through these need to find creative avenues to feel a change in their life, rather than persuing such means. Taking up a new hobby and rejuvenating your sex life may have a positive impact in such cases. Namita replied. hey gg and sss,

dnt get angry on Anon, infact wht gg said can also be true ... guys do this, they try their luck, may b he wanted to see ur reaction how u feel or u interested .... u never know ...

but at the same time gg and sss, this things do exist ... Anon is not wrong in expressing her views ... even she was shocked ... i knew a girl who was married with a kid but had affair with boy who was very much younger to her they use to meet at HER HOME when her in-laws and husband were out .. further there is a big story

aisa bhi hota hai .. so no one is right or wrong nor gg, sss neither Anon

cheer up ... dnt doubt ur husband bt keep a eye on him :) Namita replied. hey, even i always get such question in my mind ... i always ask my husabnd that can he be unloyal to me ... he gives a frank answer *laughing* that all guys do this ... he says i can get attracted to any women but i wont leave u

even i feel the same wht u feel but we are helpless u cant do anything ... and doubting out husbands will spoil our married life, if nothing is there and vl provoke him to do so ....

he says, \" even girls can do this ... if i go out with a girl that means a girl is also involved than how do a man belive his wife, i can also doubt on u.\" Acc. to him, we should keep trust.

there is a post of Rossy where similar question is raised ... Srey have also replied there just chek it another girl replied. I agree there are some people who share their stories with an unknown person on chat. Well, a chat friend is just an Anonymous... chat friend can be any body...my friend, ever ur friend...but actually...chat friends cannot stab at the back, they can' t cheat, they can' t share ur secret with anybody because they dont know you.

We all know, people can' t be trusted any more. They are just waiting for ditching you, stabbing you at the back.

Just one thing, Anon, the things you mentioned can be true and can be faque. But as Srey mentioned, these are happening. Remember there was case on a company for giving \" Dating Allowance\" . So its just the same crap without an allowance and with a different name.

As far as that lady with that kid is concerned, there are females who have a strong s.. desire and if there husband can' t satisfy her, she has to find another one.

One more thing, you never know whether that female was a married or divorced... u know chat' s... everybody is a liar there.

Finally, the things which ur net friend mentioned are very much heard of and are true. Srey replied. It is sad, but you know what, I have witnessed, read stories, have friends that are committing these same unfaithful acts. It' s happening not just in Blore, but in the USA, Southeast Asia, Canada, England and for forth.

It' s very Distrubing. I for one, will be devasted if something like this was to ever happen to me. *feeling blessed*

But you what....I have co-workers that are in similar experience.(yeah, you better believe it)The only difference is their relationship is based on what they called \" an Open Relationship\" come to think of it. What the heck is an open relationship, anyways?? *mad* is it something that it will make them happy. I don' t know, I guess if you call catching Aids or Std fun, go right ahead. *shaking my head*

Hey Anon,Just do what I do.... Ignore your friend, and love your husband even more. Just remember that there will always be sick people in this world...if it doesn' t effect you. Why care, right? mini replied. hi anon..

I agree somewhat to GG as i too believe that u never know a man' s intentions..

whatever way he is having fun..atleast its clear that he is bold enough to express it to u and even asking u..may be no dirty intentions just out of curiosity as every1 .

dating, extra marital etc etc what not happens these days..

i have become so habitual of seing and hearing these upcoming ways of having fun that it does not shock me anymore.

So nothing is unexpected these days.

Regarding ur own family life..dont feel insecured yaar its just a simple talk that u two shared . Have confidence on urself and ur man.

Girls are so bold these days that they smoke and have live in relationships..


This lady specifically is a foolish and irresponsible one who is accompanying with her daughter.

Well its the same everywhere..not spec. blore.

LA replied. such people are very horrible and they are the ones who spoil our society.they try to imitate west without realising that they are making a fool out of themselves.I fully agree with u that one should not say this to their husband.But it is disgusting to know.I think such creeps exist in Delhi too.As it is this place is full of creeps gg replied. i knew it u will feel bad...even after knowing he is ur close friend...i said such a thing about him..we are 2 diff indi ..with 2 diff lifestyle n background...i reacted the way i understood the thing...i am lil backward ...conservative...i do hv guy friends ...but anyways as u said comments are welcome...n from my side reaction to my comment are also welcome...angry or heartfelt..maybe u ddnt like ....
sss thnks for supporting..coz i rmbr i had got angry on u once..for ur comment ...hota hain...kabhi kabhi..
i dont feel bad about anything on this board..coz this board is my life line... somegirl replied. gg and sss ,
I think Anon asked for general comment over such things which are seen in metros.
She never asked for opinions abt continuing friendship or not .. Telling husband or not. I assume she knows what to do ...
I agree it could be guilt of doing wrong thing that he shared with a 3rd person (thats you ) ... If intention was bad why would anybody say such a thing and spoil his own reputation ...

But I too know of sites which are meant for dating .. and its pretty much catching up mainly is software industry where ppl have net access entire day and indulge in chatting with virtual friends .. I too have heard stories of ppl who go to meet net friends at malls or coffee shops !!
so things are definitely changing .. No doubts .. all said and done it was wrong to bring a kid along when on date ! gg replied. y are u bringing ur husband in this? i think problem is u...
whatever that guy has told u is 99% lies..one percen t i wud gv benefit of doubt..but i dont trust this guy...
if i am not wrong then this guy has cooked up the story n he is hinting u for something nasty...indirectly he wants to tell u about some relation u two can have...
dont ever tell this to ur husband..he will start doubting u ..or atleast start thingking about what kind of friends u have..
and for a second agree to what ur friend is saying but how can he even discuss this with u ? tell him at once not to tell u such things..pls....if u want to be happy rest of ur life then dump this friend of urs...