Hi,

before 6 months, i had a miscarriage in 21 weeks it was a baby boy, as i was asked to be in bedrest rite from the time i conceived i was in complete bedrest, 21st week unavoidably i was forced to travel as we were relocating to bangalore and the next day i had miscarriage,cervical incompetence,cervics opened and water loss,and so they injected and killed my baby inside me and made it as a normal delivery...im still not out of that loss,,,every single nite ive been crying ,i was feeling him speaking to him cuddling him inside but i was not even able to c see his face ....nothing bad more than ths could happen in my life ...im not able to forget the black day in my life,,, now we are trying for past 3 months and nothing is happening very depressed ..pray for peace Jaya replied. Hey Rathi, don' t worry...and do not get disheartened. Just have faith in lord and be very careful the next time, do not take any chance. asha replied. hi rathi ,i had an misscarriage at 21 weeks of my pregnency due to opening of cervix .Docter suggest to do a cercelage or giving stiches for next pregnency.do you know any doctor in bangalore who can deal high risk pregnencies?how was your experience in second pregnency?was there still complications?
appreciate your response asha replied. hi rathi Sireesha replied. Hi Rathi,this is sireesha, a new member.I lost a baby boy just 8days back.I can understand your feelings.I had bleeding in the 12th week.Later on everything was fine with the baby growth.Suddenly there was amniotic fluid loss in 21st week.From then I was recommended complete bed rest.On 17th april I had abdominal pain with bleeding.When I consulted doctor She told me that dilation has started and they are my delivery pains.I was shocked to know that If I would have delivered my baby after a week he musthave got viabilty to live.When I heard his cry I thought God heard my prayer.But my bad luck he stayed for only 2 min.I beleive very strongly that God knows what is good for us.Be strong and pray to him with belief he will definitely reply to u. Poornima replied. hi rathi, this is poornima, a new member...we (me and my hubby) too lost our little love on 2nd april 2007.Unable to comeout of the pain and loss.Tons of expectations came down like a pack of cards.Right now i can wish u good luck and let god give u and u r family all the strength cope up with the suitation.
My case is similar to yours with little difference.This is my first pregnency and the due date was on 20 july 2007.Everything was normal until 28th of march when i found brownish patch discharging. there was a bit abdomenial pain.The pain was for a while and it vanished.The second time it reoccured on 2nd april.me and my hubby went on to c the doc. She did a scan and said \" There is no significant growth since one month and also the liquior level is less.U need to take it out\" .Probabaly the greatest shock in my life.Now i feel the doc was not good enough to suggest some diagonises before one month, when i recorded 1kg less.If any members of similar case, kindly help me out as to what could have been wrong.
thanks in adavance.
rathi i wish u good luck again.thank u sudha replied. dear Rathi....
It was really sad what you went thrpugh... but dont really loose heart be calm all will be fine.even i lost my little joy on 4th nov at 32 week. i had lost all hope but i too am coming in term with the loss and may start trying soon. but be sure to take care of your health are you continuing with the low dose of follic acid if not ask your doc. if he can prescribe one for you.take care and god bless you
love and hugs
Sudha K.Radha replied. Dear Rathi,

I am so sorry to read about your loss... It must have been heartbreaking and yes life is going to seem bleak for a while but in time things will get better. It takes some time to conceive so don' t give up hope or doubt your fertility this soon. I wanted to ask if your doc had performed a cerclage (stitching the cervix closed)? If not do they plan on doing this if you conceive next? Its highly effective 80-90% of the time. I sincerely wish you the best with your future pregnancies!!! AJ replied. Hi Rathi,
I completely understand how you are feeling. I went thru a loss too when I was 20 weeks pregnant.There was a problem in the baby (Non Immune Hydrops), where the amniotic fluid enters the child. I was induced pains, and had to go thru a normal delivery, it was a boy in my case also, but I didnt have the courage to see him.
This was a yr and half ago, it is still tough to forget him inside me, but trust me your pain will heal with time. Our little ones are with God, there can be no place better.So pls take care of your self and God will bless you soon. I am also trying since the past 4 months with no luck. Lets see.May God give you courage and good news soon. xxx replied. hi rathi,

im also as you.you must have been reading my messages on this board.i had also gone through a child loss and its very painful.its true you cannot think of anything else except this loss.it really takes a lot of time to focus on other things in life.and that Y thing keeps on coming in your mind.
i will just advise you not to spoil your health by crying and thinking every sec about it.i used to do the same when i lost baby in 6 months,till now also i think it sometimes....
i realized one thing baby is not going to come back...might as well leave this decision on god hand and just try another time.Death,Marriage AND Birth are in Gods hands.why he does he knows it.Please dear take care of yourself so that everything goes fine in next time you try.this board has people who can give you advise, support and help u in reducing your grief...but its you who have to be strong and courageous like im trying..

all the very best for future.