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Hi,
I am 27 yr old women, i Have recently stepped out of my marrige. I have a 9 months old son and we both stay with my parents.
It was just few months of my pregnancy when i discoverd that my husband is cheating on me,i have even got many evidences for the same not only this when i asked my husband about this he agreed to this and apologized, but as days passed, though i was pregnant and unwell i realised that he was still cheating on me and also very irresponsilbe towards me and our yet to born baby.I was still accepting his behaviour only to save my marrige! with all this situation i delivered a baby boy hoping that everything would go good after his birth. but still i was sensing the same old behaviour not only towards me but now towards our son also. with all this senario i decided to step out of this relationship, my family supported me for that and finally we have filled for divorce. our Divorce is to happen within coming 2-3 months as it is with mutual consent.
Now my son is almost 9 months old and we aresaying with my parents who are financially strong. i am doing a job butdo not earn so much so that i can live alone with my kid.
i will need my parents support as well.
my parents wanted me to let the custody of my son to my husband so that i will be single and get remarried.but i was not willing to do that.
finally i have my sons custody with me.
my worry is how shoul i cope up with all this?
i wish to remarry for my son as well as my parents,bcoz i do not want to keep my parents in this tense sitauation for there entire life.
can anyone suggest how should i go ahead with this?
will i ever get remarried? can me and my son lead a normal life again?
rashi replied. prajakta u r a brave lady and believe in god good days will come soon.just wait for the good person who will filled ur life with happiness.just wait for some time Viju replied. You have taken the correct decision of getting divorced. You did gave him a chance to correct himself but he is still cheating you, but you have not given the correct explanation of cheating. Is he having an extra-marital affair? or he is cheating you in some other way. Prajakta, We are in India which definetely is not par with western culture. Even western countries are in the wake of adopting our culture. Prajakta your decision is very correct to get re-married, and if you are a celebrity or a big businesswomen you will have more & more chances of getting remarried. And if you have the capability to strive hard & give a feel of you & your importance to your husband, Then I would salute you for being a real Indian Women. You are in the ground reality and you are the best judge to take the decision. Control your emotions, anger, ego and call your hubby.Understand the misunderstandings and make him feel you and your sons love towards him. Make him feel that he is also equally important to your family. If he understands it, I would be more happy that I had saved one family. Staying alone with son is not that easy as we think. Remarriage is possible... but many people will take you to be granted. Think twice before remarriage. Try to solve the problems within the closed doors. If not possible, wait for some time to find out the best new partner possibly a single parent. A Single parent because after divorce you will also be a single parent. vikas replied. don' t take any wrong decisions, pls be calm Good days will come again.
vikas Harish Anand replied. ensure a steady flow of income through a job which give you more time to take care of your son. If it is on education side it would be better and so on.

the chances to get married is higher when you are in job than sitting home. It gives you a broader area to work, meet people, which eventually help you in getting remarried.
sp replied. ...being a single parent is challenging, you have taken a brave decision by moving out from a relationship. my advise is to be a bit patient now and let some time pass and then may in the long run may be God has planned something better for you.

All the best, Time will cure

Br.