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2009-02-18
Name: tensed



Me and my husband both are working, earning handsome amounts.Its two years of our marriage, now I am even pregnant, Issue is my BIL who is 27 years of age and is 11th fail but keeps dream to become a billionaire inhours. It starts, when after my marriage my husband told me about him and asked m,e to take care, i took up the respnsibility and with my jacks i get him a job in an mnc with reasonable salary, but as his attitude he started using mine and husbands name to get his work done, lastly he made a fraud of an odd 70000, which lately we have to fill up. After this he was send back to my in laws asking to seek mechanic course as they live in small town and can have a regular check on him, but after remaining for 2-3 months he insisted to come back, but this time my hubby was not interested but then also he ran from there and came to our place, but my hubby did not allow him to stay. So for 6-7 months he was away living in same city, i helped him everytime with some amount knowm ou unknowm to my husband, then i realised that his expenses was all weird talking on phones with his so called gf making a bill of 9000 and likes...now again he has joined back thanks to my pil, a feeling of hatred has come up in my mind against him coz after helping him so much he has put up all the blame on me that keeping him in an mnc has raised up his thoughts and now bcoz me he is flying high and cannot return to floor. and many other nuisense that he shared to my fil. many atimes he knowingly says some words infront of my hubby that result into a fight. I am getting more and more irritated day by day, as i dont know his intention when I ask him to realise his responsibility he infront of me says bhaiya is there to seek responsibility of me and elders, and infromt of my fil he pretends that if I am makinh himfeel as a burden on family. I am worried about future coz now my baby will be in existence soon, and till now we havent saved a bit coz not coming out with these liabilities.
Pls help what should I do?
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2009-06-15
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Anonymous Name: Samiina
Subject:  Prenatal stress



Hi tensed
This person has taken advantage of you, yes but all of you have been enablers in letting him ride roughshod over your feelings, emotions and yes your bank balances too!

Is there a good counsellor where you live? Because you need to talk out your stress and seek practical help to help yourself. Please seek professional help or ask your doctor to refer you. You are an educated person and know that counselling will help you overcome these trials and their effects on your mind and body and your pregnancy too.

Mothers who have prenatal depression go on to having full blown post natal depression so for your sake and your baby' s, seek help now. So far you have given a lot of unnecessary importance to someone who did not deserve it. But you deserve to be happy and you cannot so long as this cycle of financial and emotional abuse persists.

This man is NOT your problem. Your husband was right in keeping him at arms length, you pulled him in. KEEP HIM OUT. Never mind what anyone says.
Please see a professional.
Hugs and support
samiina
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2009-03-02
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Anonymous Name: DCS
Subject:  Dont worry



Congrats on your pregnancy ..
All I can say this ignore this person completely .. Concentrate on your pregnancy..Remember now you are having your own child and there is no point worrying about a guy who least cares about himself or his future.. Believe me you already did your best on his case ..
What does your in laws feel about this?
You are really good Sis-in law in my point of view..you tried to help this person but see what happen he seems care less about your good intentions ..its not worth it helping him anymore ..
Dont worry .. take your vitamins regularly and think of your baby' s future now ..
All the best for you baby and your future ..
By the way how far are you in your pregnancy now?
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