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Miscarriage and Child Loss:sad about things
2007-02-13
Name: upset



hi,

i read this board regularly and feel nice sharing things.
last year in aug i had to terminate my pregnency because of medical reasons. This has shaken me a lot.i was due in oct just two and half months were left.i had a vaginal delivary.
now doctor said we can start trying for a baby. my husband is ok with it but i still feel uncomfortable.i cannot forget my loss.what should i do.i am better now but just cry for my bad luck all the time.i wish i never concieved that baby,if it was not meant to be born then y did i concieve it?my husband feels but he says life has to move on.what should i do...im still not able to forget what has happen to me.GOD IS VERY UNFAIR.what does he get by doing all this.my maid has got pregnent after one month of marriage.some people get babies soo easily even if they cannot make them good for anything,and when we can give good future to child then god does problems with us.STRANGE this world it.this is what frustates me.what should i do except crying.whats my problem. Help me.
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2007-02-14
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Anonymous Name: Dont worry
Subject:  hi there



Hi, I understand your feelings. Sometimes we don' t understand why this is happening. Even I ask the same question when someone goes through these things. I just feel that they are asking a baby and not money or wealth. Why God is being unfair. Couple of my friends are going through similar situation. I am feeling bad to see them go through this. But I am telling you don' t lose hope. Keep praying and just try for a baby with a calm mind. I am not asking you to forget but just think about the joy you will experience when you see the baby next time. Maybe the baby is waiting for the right time to come to this world. Give another chance, pray God and my prayers are there too. Don' t worry. Good luck. Take care.
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2007-02-14
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Anonymous Name: Anu
Subject:  Try to Move On



It is understandable how you feel after your loss. But you have to keep this in your mind that for\" medical reasons\" you decided to terminate your pregnancy. That is the choice you made and you will have to live with. Please don' t feel jealous or envious of your maid and the fact that she has less resources than you does not mean that it is unfair for her to conceive. Mothers love has no limits or boundaries..it purely magical and only way to feel is to nurture a baby. Motherhood is a wonderful journey.
Think positive and move on...

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2007-02-14
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Anonymous Name: D
Subject:  please....



Stop saying these dipressing words on this board. everybody who is reading this is either pregnent or trying to be, don' t disturb anybody by saying something taht has no meaning.
its not that you loss so other does not have right to conceive n give birth.
Everything will be good with you too but Stop disturbing and try to trust yourself. GOOD LUCK..
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2007-02-14
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Anonymous Name: K.Radha
Subject:  rather upset with D



Excuse me for pointing out a startling fact that you´ ve conveniently missed, the forum name: MISCARRIAGE & CHILD LOSS! I don´ t think you´ ll find too many posts that are filled with glee. What do you expect people to discuss in such a forum? Did you honestly believe that people were going to be posting warm fuzzy feelings? If there is any upset being created it is solely by yourself. Frankly I feel you owe Upset an appoligy for your foolish and heartless post. I can not imagine why anyone would say Child Loss is like " saying something taht has no meaning." ...
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2007-02-13
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Anonymous Name: sudha
Subject:  Hi



hi dear,
I can very well understand your fear and anxiety ,its very natural .Even i had a same experience i was due on 20th Dec 2006 and my little angel left me on 1st week of Nov and I delivered a still born on 4th Nov....
We cannot find answers to all our querries I had unmonitored BP and sugar and the most hassle free pregnecy ... now why it happened to me even the docs are unable to say ... just give yourself time grief fully dont rush into another pregnency ( I am not aware of your age ) come to term of the loss pls dont get me wrong i know this loss can never be replaced but think in this way ... an angel is with you but you cannot see touch your heart dont you feel her presence I feel our dear Rishona is always with us ...
Be strong get all your tests done ... and when you are fully geared start trying and god will bless.. never loose faith and hope ...
take care
sudha
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