Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi,
I am 31 Years old and My wife is 28 years old. We have 2 daughters of 3yrs and 1 months old. Currently we are in US, when we came to know our 2nd baby gender my wife got very much disappointed because she want a baby boy. So she was suggestig to have 3 baby, but I convinced her saying in india educated people like us wont prepare to have 3 baby.. and if we have.. the society will look us like different.. and we both are happy having 2 daughter. She some what accepted, but all my friends circle have a boy baby so she is siliently feeling bad that she is not having a boy.

Our both baby born normal delivery without any issues, so even our parents suggesting to go for 3rd. In this situation I am confused. Shall I go for a third, If I have a 3rd baby will Indian people looks me as alien or un-educated person? I see some people are with only one baby and if I go for 3 what they will think?

Financially I can manage with 3 kids, but still what is holding me to go for this decision? Please help me to get out of this stress with your suggestions.

FYI, We are ready accept if the 3rd baby is girl.

Teju replied. Hey dear this is really a good news and you should celebrate this with your family in stead you are just thinking of what should be done, according to me if you can afford the third child then you should go ahead with it. Tina replied. Hi there first of all many congratulations for the news that you are becoming a proud father for the third time, please now relax and be calm as you are going to run your family and not outsiders so no need to worry so much. Priyanka replied. Hello Nirmal this is something good news and you should celebrate on it, please do not bother what people will say as you need to decide on this and if your wife and you are happy with the decision then no one will bother you. Priya replied. Hey dear this is not the way you decide to proceed for your family as you need to be sure from yourself and not think that what people will say as they keep on talking if you do well or bad, so think accordingly and plan it. Preeti replied. Hello dear this is nothing to do with your status as its your choice and why are you thinking so much about what people will think as you need to decide what is good or bad for your family and not the people should decide the same. Pooja replied. I think you are thinking to much and that is the reason you should not plan the third child as people will start talking about the same and you will not like the same, also please do not think as it will harm your health as well. Pinky replied. Hey dear this is really good to see that you are planing your third baby, please do not worry about the people as they will always critic es and you will have to face that where ever you live, if you and your wife is fine with the third child then you should go ahead. Pari replied. Hi dear this is nothing to worry at all as here in India people have as many as 10 kids also, please relax and just chill and just concentrate on your future with your family. Please do not think of what people will say. Priyesh replied. Hi dear my self having four children and must say that i am very happy and no one looks at me differently as in India having kids more that two is very common and its a sign of prosperity also, please go ahead and plan. Priyanka replied. Hi dear please make sure you are on the same page of your family as this needs a lot of time and courage to have a third child so please think twice and then plan as you should be very clear in this of having third child. Priya replied. Can i ask you one thing is any one feeding you when in trouble then why you are so concern about it, so please do not force yourself and just do what your family wants and plan for the joy moment. Pritam replied. Hi Nirmal i think you should not consider for the third as it will be a big burden for you and for your family so please be happy what you have and concentrate and give more love to your lovely daughters. Preeti replied. Hi dear please feel free to what you want as no need to think so much about what people will say they will not matter you the most but yes your family happiness is your priority and you should think that first. Pooja replied. Hi there please make understand your wife as there are no surety of baby boy if you guys try for the third time also, yes you can always plan for an adoption if wanting baby boy discuss this with your wife. Teju replied. Hi Nirmal please stop over thinking as you are in India and here people do not bother anything they just see how much money you have so if you are quite wealthy then no need to worry and you can always plan the child. Tiwari replied. Hi there if you have a adoption done then you will always make a child future bright and also you will make your wife happy as she wanted a baby boy in this way you will bring more happiness to your family. Taruna replied. Hi dear please have a adoption done as that is the best thing you can plan as you are not sure if you try for the third time and again there is a baby girl so then what, instead play safe and plan for an adoption. Tejas replied. Hi Nirmal please think what your family wants and do not think so much about the outsiders as these are the people who will laugh with you but in crises no one will come ahead to help you, so please do what your family is comfortable in. Tanmay replied. Hi there please feel happy in what you have in feeling of a baby boy you are not focusing on your daughters and loosing to give the love and affection what they deserve and please do not make such mistakes in life. Tanvi replied. Hi dear please do not take me wrong but then what is the conformation of the third child being a baby boy, are you so sure that you will be having a baby boy as its not in your hand.