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hi all,
My step-daughter has started menstruating at 11.5 years. She is with my in-laws, i go there frequently. But she is close to her, also somewhat pally with me.
MIL has explained about how to do things, but I gathered she has not explained about \" sex education\" to her. I mean the science of it. My MIL has lot of superstitions about this fact, and I suspect she has passed on those to her.
I do not want to say anything about those to my step-daughter, else MIL (and hubby) will get wild if anything goes wrong.

Should I explain the \" scientific\" stuff about what happens in the body of a woman during those days? She does not have sex education in her school (VII std), nor is my MIL educated to do it.

I thought I should explain things, and also what happens during fertilization, and hence the precautions girls/ladies should take to avoid getting into bad company (or probably it is too early to state that point?)

Any ideas or suggestions?
Please share your experiences if any.
thanks,
k
mini replied. i agree to what swapna said...u can make her aware of the good and bad touch also along with the hygiene thing...

what i meant to say was that the biology they may not understand at this age..

Practical aspects have to be taught to a girl..i agree child molestation be it a girl or boy..every parent is scared of it..

Along with that,i think that you take ur inlaws in ur confidence while you do this..


Swapna replied. I would suggest you to go ahead and teach your step d about sex and what a woman' s body is all about. With a lot of perverts roaming around now a days ,it' s always better that she' s aware of things. Tell her the difference between good touch and bad touch and who can touch her and where. You never know what happens to kids. Child molestation is so common nowadays that those innocent victims dont even know that they are taken for granted.
Good luck mini replied. Hi krishna,
how are you? and how are things going on at ur place? ur inlaws family and husband and his work?

regarding ur step daughter now...
from ur earlier posts i remeber ur mil' s attitude towards ur closeness towards ur step daughter...

i think 11.5 yrs is too early to make her aware of these facts..she will not understand the science behind this untill the topic is introduced in her bilogy text book....

once she reads about it..then u can explain her the particular topic related to the chapter...[so no negative thoughts will come in ur MIL' s mind].

U can just tell her how to be hygienic in these days..about the cleanliness etc. That too u should do it in front of your MIL.

DO not give her any sex education ...MIL and ur husb will definitely take it the other way....i remember they are not so much educated...

Ur MIL has taken that girl at her responsibilty..let her fulfill that responsibilty...and even biology text books these days in class IX-X are educative enough. If you teach her then u can use biology books as ur tool to explain her...taking care that ur MIL does not take it the other way..

U R very intelligent and good human being. So u will handle it surely.
All the Best. Shanthi replied. Your Step daughter is your wife' s daughter?.why can' t your wife explain her about this?.you can get her some materials like cd' s ,books to go through.I think most of the girls feel comfortable talking all these stuff only with mom.I never duscussed any of this issue with my dad even he was my own biological dad.
love replied. hi,

well after reading your mail i felt very nice that atleast you have given a thought about it.i think that you should start telling her things in detail now not all at once but slowly slowly.im sure many girls in her class may not have even started with their mensuration.

im 27 years old.my mensuration started at 13 years.my mom didnt explain me quite well about it but as started having it regularly then she explained me this process of reproduction.

i feel mam,u should not feel shy.See as in my opinion this world is bad and every girl has to be smart enough to know things,atleast about her body.bring a friendly relation with her...so that in future she has confidence in you and dosent hide things.

thats my opinion.dontworry about MIL generation..they had no knowledge about sex and all...that y sooo many kids were born to that generation ladies.