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hi all,

im quite a regular reader of this board and really appreaciate the way people help each other.today i myself want some solution and advises from people here as im very depressed and upset nowdays.

im married from 2 yrs.from day one i dont know y both my MIL and SIL had some negative perspective about DIL in the house.both had a feeling i suppose tht i will snatch their son and brother from them..i guess it,because they behaved so stupidly in the beginning.anyways,my MIL is nice but sometimes weird but still now i have adjusted to her temprament.she loves me and cares for me too,though never expresses but still we are ok.
the problem is my SIL.she is married and stays away from our city but their is a constant interference of her in our house matters.my MIL tells whatever happens in our house even smallest of things to her.so many times my FIL as well as my hubby has told her not to discuss every household matter with her cause she is gone to another house but somehow i dont understand why my MIL feels comfortable in discussing all things with her and sharing.i know they do a lot of critisism about relatives as well as sometimes me also.she is a daughter i understand,but im also someone daughter na.i also need love and appreaciation.i mean my MIL thinks that her daughter is the best in everything.

the other problem is my SIL has some problems in her sasural.she is in a joint family..inlaws,bro-in law,his wife and kids.she dosent get along well with her bro-in -law wife.all know this in my house.i dont know whats the problem in her sasural neither im interested but she eats my in laws brains by weeping on phone,emotionally blackmailing them etc.im upset nowdays because my MIL asked me that what are we thinking of sending her on Raksha Bandhan which is coming in few days.i told her we shall send some cash or buy a gift for her whenever she comes from me and hubby side.
my MIL says that dont give cash,buy her a microwave or some kitchen appliance.when i asked her why she said her bro-in law wife uses kichen and has her own microwave so her daughter also wants to hve her own.
igot so upset.cant her husband buy a kitchen appliance for his own wife that she needs to ask her parents to get it just because she has competition with her bro-in law wife.
im ready to give her cash or any present which we can afford as a shagun on rakhi..but now she expects all from us.im sooooooo upset with my MIL thinking im not talking to her.she encourages her daughters foolishness as well as intereferes in her family life.

i told my hubby,he says \" we will see what to buy,let mummy say anything\" .even my hubby dosent like her sister troubling my in laws but she is soo cunning and emotionally blackmails my in laws.
i know my DUTY as a bhabhi.im not refusing to give her anything but its me and hubby wish.y should in laws tell us.My SIL cannot ask directly from my hubby so she said to my MIL to convince him to buy her this gift.

tell me what to do?im really very annoyed with my SIL since beginning,and now she is becoming more demanding and cunning also specially towards me. shweta replied. Hi love,

i can understand your situation n completely agree with u. Give a gift to your SIL decided by you and you hubby...let your MIl say anything bcoz if you fulfill her demand this time then from next time she makes more expensive demands.by doing this your MIL will be upset from you for sometime after that everything will be ok..