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Hello people,
I am 33 years old female living in US, got very good husband who loves me alot but doesn' t express it.He never gives a casual hug or good night kiss or express any love.I tried to talk to him but he says everything is in his heart, he doesn' t have to show it to me openly.according to him it is funny expressing love like an american man!..
I get some weired feeling about other man who shows little bit interest in me.I am goodlooking and professional, independent women.When ever some men around me shows some interest in me, i feel like i have attracted towards them.Believe me i will never ever dare to cheat on my husband.It will be a big sin and i am totally aware of that.But also how to control my feelings about attraction towards other man?.Please help. LA replied. There will be many instances when a woman finds other men attracted to her. Men are naturally attracted to women and some take the liberty to even express it. But if we r married, then we have to learn to ignore these intial advances , because if we keep on thinking about them, we can be easily drifted off the floor. And really speaking these men r not even worth giving any attention, they are just attracted and have no real love for us. They too r judging us about how much we can let them come closer.So beware of these guys who r showing interest in you, and concentrate on your husband only. BU replied. Hi Mugdha,

I also had exactly the same problem with my hubby. He loves me a lot but never used to show it or express it to me. I was so tired of this behaviour. He also used to say that he can' t sing a song or shout that he loves me. He never wanted to argue on this matter too.

One day I decided to write a letter to him instead of sending email. I wrote him that untill you won' t express I won' t be able to come to know that u love me or not. Physical love is not everything, sometimes u have to open your mouth to say that u care. It was a long 3 pages letter & I put it on his pillow. He came back from office, read it & u won' t belive he started chaning, not overnight. But now he is much much better in expressing his love.

So don' t worry, just try few tricks to convey him that it is necessary b/w a husband & wife to express.

Try & let us know.

Take Care
BU