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Waiting to try:Huge Dilemma
2009-04-05
Name: Ashley B



Hi everyone,

i' m new to the website and need your point of view and perspective on my issue.

me and my husband are married from last 2.5 years, we are indians but live abroad. Due to some circumstances neither my or my husband' s parents can come over here to help us out around the time of baby birth.

I' m very scared of doing all of this alone, so we are planning to plan our baby when we go back to India, which is around next year... is this a good idea.

Can we have baby on our own, and take care of everything like my food before and after birth and baby' s baths and nursing and all other stuff...

Is delaying our baby worth it, just cos we are scared of doing it all alone. so we think we wouldn' t be the first couple to do it alone... but again very skeptical about the whole Idea..

Please respond and give your honest opinions !
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2009-04-08
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Anonymous Name: kania
Subject:  don´ t worry



hi ashley,

how r u? welcome to the batch.
first of all, everybody has to learn the hard way. ur parents can support u for sometime but u have to do the rest. i have my family here(i don' t live in india) but my husband was present at the birth of my daughter. we did everything togather. because we are the parents.
u don' t have to be scared. relax, read pregnancy books and ask questions to ur friends who have kids or to ur doctor. thats what i did. i didn' t said a single sigh during my delivery. my moms time was different, parents can always guide us, but u know the best. weather u want to accept their advise or not it is ur desicion.
dont worry. u will love it. if u r ready for the baby, go for it if not than wait. but don' t wait for ur parents to come.
i have lots of friends and they have no one and they are raising their kids.
everyone learns from their mistakes.
take care.
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2009-04-08
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Anonymous Name: Ashley
Subject:  Thanks



Hey Kania,

Thanks for your great advice, it has really boosted my spirit.

Thanks again.
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