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Hi,
My husband & I have been TTC since last month. I suffered cramps 2 weeks ago, which had never happened before. I had read up so much about pregnancy and I felt we did everything right. But last night I got my periods :( I felt so bad. I cried and cried and cried.
My husband was incredibly supportive. He reminded me of the fact that the doctor had mentioned we should give 6 months time to get pregnant. But with so many people getting pregnant, some even by mistake, it really hurt when it didnt happen me.
Just looking for some advice on what I can do better this month and some reassuring words I guess.
I plan to take better care of myself. No more mango, jackfruit, chocolates which I could not resist. Regular walks & exercise. Reduce to 2 cups of coffee from 3 cups.
Have taken MCBM 69 tabs for over a month now. Hoping things go right this month.
Praying...
Sunshine Namita replied. i am happy to read your message where i m finding you atleast little bit out of tension ... along with stoping to think abt. do' s and donts i would also suggest you to restrict yourself from visting the foroums related to pregnancy or TTC ... even though i always feel like talking and sharing with other i hardly visit this foroum as earlier even i was the same as you ... i started thinking too much .. so now i have decided to live a normal life .. dnt think n nor do take out pregnancy topic with husband ... he is equally keen, bt nothing much even he can do .... relax and if possible visit such sites on and off not on regular basis

me 2 hope that all of us in this foroum gives Good news soon :) Anita replied. Sunshine, don' t be so hard on your self. I know what you are going through and it is not easy. The odds are against us naturally since we have only 2 days out of a month to conceive. It makes it even more difficult when you look around and people get pregnant left & right !

At least for the sake of your dh you need to be strong. You have only been TTC for a short time. If you are starting to get cramps & such then you are putting too much stress on your mind & body and trust me, it is not going to help. Be patient a little more. It will happen soon. Don' t worry. Namita replied. after posting this reply to you a colleague came to me saying she is leaving early to meet one of her relative who delivered a baby today

this lady during her pregnancy had lots of complication n that 2 at early stage ... due to prob. in her blood group doc' s had told that it is difficult for that baby to grow till nine months anythings can happen ... n at the end they said bcoz of complications baby can b born with some prob. or handicap

bt see now this lady have given birth to a healthy baby

i said everything is written in our destiny .. we should only do whtever we can rest leave up to God let him decide what is best for us

Namita replied. hi sunshine ... i know how it feels ... i m on TTC from last 1 1/2 yrs. ... i tried clomophine course with follicular study etc. for 6 mnths it didnt work ... now i have taken break for anoher yr. or so n then vl think of going further

i hope you are a working lady ... as it helps us to keep our mind free from this topic or else we keep on thinking abt. the prob. (even if nothing is there) and actually land up creating some prob.

u need not take extra efforts by avoiding manoges, coffee etc. ... i m suggesting this bcoz like crazy even i have done this for 1st few months eg. i avoided siting on bike, even when my husband was driving i use to ask him to drive slow, not putting more presure on stomach ... i use to feel that this might harm the process of fertilisation ... but believe me its not so ... v think tooo much ... there is no need to take such precaution unless n until we get pregnant

once a dr. had told me if this precautions were necessary then the labour women around us who actually work in construction field wont get pregnant atall .. they lift heavy materials, eat whatever they get ... so dear dnt think much ... everything is written in our destiny ... everything will be good at the end ... i have stoped thinking abt. this .... jab hoga tab hoga ... i m leaving a normal life ..... i told u that i vl think abt. this topic after 1 yr. or so ... infact i have given this time to myself so tht atleast for 1 yr. i wont think abt. it at all ... as relaxation is equally imp or shud i say most imp.

n remember one thing .. by taking this precautions (not eating) n crying u are actually making your husband feel nervous ... atleast not for him bt for u he vl feel bad that my wife wants child n she cant bear

dnt give hope just tell ur self \" picture abhi baki hai\" :)