Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hello everyone...i need your advice, im married for 2 yrs now. Iam a software engg and my husband is a doctor. Im now 27 yrs old and my husband is 28. Sometimes we thought of planning a baby but then some constraint comes.Like im earning around 50,000 per month but my husband is still doing his PG in orthopedics so he gets only 20,000. At home my mother-in-law is totally bed ridden and a maid is taking care of her in sitting and all other work. So thr is no one to take care of my baby and also i stay 40km away from my office. So if i plan a baby then the only option left is to leave my job. But in just 20,000 how to manage the home. And if we dont plan it now then its already very late.. im totally confused. My husband still needs 3 more yrs to complete his PG and to get a decent job...
Plzzz help..... reshmi replied. well its all fate.even iam preg now.all unplanned and we arent financially setled yet.first thought of abortion.but now we hav decided to go for it.ya we are managing on single income.iam not workin anymore.a child is god given,its all god' s plans.sometimes wen we long for baby we just dont get it.and ur 27 better to start family.deaying age can cause plm like bp,abnormalities in baby,also hormonal changes.
after having baby u can hire a maid stay at home one to look afetr baby.
ask ur mum to help.
see afetr delivery i also plan to work,maybe wen baby is 3 months or 6months old.my option is daycare only.dont worry everything will be ok a friend replied. my suggestion for you is to go ahead and have a baby now if you have your family or friends nearby to help you with the baby.you are saying that it will take 3 more years for your husband to settle down, just think- you will be 30 by then.things may get a little harder once you cross 30.

try to move to a house nearer to your work.many companies give ' work from home' option in such cases.try for that option for a couple of months after delivery.you and your husband are better judges here, so sit down and discuss.best of luck! Nat replied. hi jyothi
like u, my hubby and i were worried. my hubby just started a business and i was working. we had to manage only with my salary. we planned. but god had his own plan. suddenly i found myself pregnant. i was happy when i knew i was pregnant but we were worried. but we went thru with it. seriously i dont regret it. having our daughter has brought us so much of joy into our life. there were ups and downs. but we passed it. my daugther, she is 3yrs now.
27yrs ur clock is ticking. its better to have ur baby now. u must know urself. i have friends who waited to have there baby but are still trying desperately. some regret they waited so long.
strongly i think things can work out even if baby comes. there will be some sacrifices which u must be willing to make. finally, the choice is urs. are u willing to give up some things to have a child. or are u willing to wait and take the chance, to have it all.
having a baby is a big responsibility. but its worth everything when u see ur baby growing day by day.
u and ur hubby sit and talk. u will find the answer. only u guys know if u can do it. the best thing is pray and god will do whats best.
all the best.