Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I just turned 31 and my husband turned 33 years old. We are married since past 2.5 years. We have been trying to conceive since past 3 months with no luck. I have tried to track my ovulation time and would really want to go for the baby sooner than later. I wish we could try almost every single day around my Ovulation time, however my husband brought up the topic of him having less sex drive these days and he doesn' t want to force himself into it. He has suggested to have breaks in between days and then may be go for it like in 2-3 days. I personally feel that we are lowering the chances by this. Also I am very disturbed to know that he has less sex drive. Is it normal? Does this happen to everyone? Is he not happy from me. I asked him..but he says that age plays an important role. Are we that old to loose our sex drive? I don' t really understand and don' t know what to do?

Gosh, I am getting too confused if i should be concentrating on baby making or shall i change my focus on just my husband and forget about family? don' t know what to do?

Please help! Hi replied. Do not wear heels while pregnant. My doctor suggested me to go easy on heels during my pregnancy. There are lot of issues like- blood runs from heel to the toes which causes swelling of toes, lower back pain due to elevated heels, even your pedals pain a little because they are uneven. So my suggestion is to just go easy on heels while pregnant. Anita replied. Walking in heels or exercising hard is not going to affect you getting pregnant. First of all try to find out when you ovulate. Then make love every other day during this time. You can use a ovulation prediction kit to determine your ovulation as well. You should be taking a pre-natal vitamin by now every day. Even your dh should be. Drink pletny of water (for mucous production) and after intercourse elevate your hips. Don' t stress too much. Easier said than done eh ! Well one way to not think so much is to keep yourself occupied. Get a hobby if you can. Men don' t like to be forced into doing it. They would lose the drive. Try to relax and make it a fun time. You will get pregnant soon don' t worry. 31 is not at old. Good Luck Richa replied. Thanks a bunch for such heart warming advices. I paid a visit to ob/gyn like 6 months back as we were preparing ourselves. And she was quite +ve about me and my health (touch wood!).

It is strange though but last month I literally felt that I conceived (started to feel the early symptoms) but then it didn’t happen! I have a few questions too. Will appreciate if you can help me answer these-

- Should u continue with your exercise regime? My logic says I should not go to extreme and go cautiously on that.

- Should I stop wearing heels? Or not too much in high heels? I know it might sound stupid but last month I wore a lot of heels and I thought may be that was the reason the egg couldn’t land properly?? (Please don’t laugh if it is such a stupid question)
friend replied. go for a pre-conceptional visit with your gyn just to make sure evrything is ok.i think you are on the right track trying during your ovulation.regarding your husband' s low sex drive, not just age but stress in day-today life also plays role.may be he is feeling a little pressure from trying and not conceiving.make sure you both are more relaxed during your ovulation time.you can have a little fun watching romantic movies or reading romantic stories together and get in mood.do whatever makes you both feel relaxed and enjoy sex.you will conceive very soon. ss replied. Hi
You should not be worrying to much.Because this happens.Chances of getting pregnant are high in 20' s than in 30' s.But if you are living abroad youmust have understood by now people keep getting pregnant until very late ages.And i think both of your ages are not bad for conceiving.

I think one should keep trying during your fertile period(i guess you must have had a lot knowledge by now).It is better to have sex may be every alt day rather than every day because mens sperm count may be down if you have sex everyday.So keep a track of your fertile days and dont get stressed.You will be pregnant.
But before hand go and have general checkup about ur normal health.
All the best.