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Hi, am a 33 year male, my wife is 29. recently married. last 3 months we tried consummation. Always failed. her vagina is too tight and am unable to penetrate. every time i just touch the penis on her entrance and unable to enter through. its painful for both of us to enter... we try for 15-20 mins and then both of us give up. And my penis of of normal thickness 1.25 inch.

The gradual failures have started affecting me that my erection is failing now after sometime. we are trying the missionary position.

We are yet to consummate despite our 3 month marriage and now we are really really worried... and helpless. unable to seek help...

please suggest what we should do. any help or suggestion would be appreciated... please help. janu replied. You are just experiencing a starting trouble...

Men are easily aroused, but for women the mind plays a vital role. Your wife needs to unwind her mind, which will unwind her body too. Set the ambiance, listen to romantic music, indulge in a long foreplay and explore eachother...Don' t just jump into bed and go for it straight. Instead start it by teasing her with little caresses...at regular intervals of say 5 mins...do this even while she is preoccupied with work but wait patiently until she finishes all household chores to proceed further..but don' t stop the teasing... This always helps in relaxing her, and in making her anticipate the pleasure. Also, by the time you both are ready, she should be moistened enough...

Talk to your wife and find out her likes and dislikes. Assure her that you will be gentle, if she is scared of a painful experience... Women are more easily aroused around the fertile days of the ovulation cycle...

It might be kind of touch and go in the beginning, until both know what each other wants and gets excited with... Wish you all success for a good and happy marriage! jyoti replied. I think your wife is just not excited enough. try to indulge in foreplay that will relax her a bit and don' t hurry into sex.some woman tend to be like this. between my hubby and I ,I tend to lubricate a lot so its easy for him. But if your wife doesn' t you must make her. Also try cunnili.... that should loosen her quite a bit.if this doesnt work try an artificial lubricant. deepa replied. Try with himalaya confido.It will work and has no side affects so that ur erection will not fail K.Radha replied. You really do need to consult with your doctor for a number of reasons... One you might not actually be doing things correctly and your doctor can obviously help you with the anatomical side of things... Also your wife might have a condition known as Imperforate Hymen which often needs surgical removal so that normal intercourse can be achieved. Please do speak with your doctor because it has been some three months without sucess I do believe you need to seek outside help. lolitha replied. Dont worry, You get gels/lubricants in market. use that to loosen her vagina. Also doing foreplay for a long time helps a lot. friend replied. nothing to worry.first time sex is painful.both of you relax and do some fun foreplay to get comfortable before sex.use lubricant to loosen her vagina a little bit and for easy penetration.