Dear sakhi, dddd, Thanks for your notes. I am in India now. I have filed a case against my husband for my right to reunion. My evil sil is the one who is corresponding through her relatives. Even now she is repeating the same story, it was me who hit my husband. She talks in a way that their issuing divorce notice is nothing compared to the troubles i caused to their family. It is 2 months since my husband spoke to me. He also spoke to their relative in chennai and told him that his lawyer didn' t allow him to talk to me (which is another lie!). My sil' s in-laws are in chennai. I met them. They were telling us how she and her mother played cruel role in separating them from their son. There are people to support me emotionally.
Do you think it is sufficient? How can such evil people get away with all their sins? They are using my love for my husband as their trump. They are also thinking i will return to USA for the sake of getting my green card! So she is achieving her wish. Separating me from my husband and driving me out of USA. I am not going to withdraw my case against my husband' s family.
I have to depend on internet booths to post messages here. However i will try to update as frequently as possible. Once the case is over i will publish it.
With love
Sumathi
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Dear sakhi, dddd, Thanks for your notes. I am in India now. I have filed a case against my husband for my right to reunion. My evil sil is the one who is corresponding through her relatives. Even now she is repeating the same story, it was me who hit my husband. She talks in a way that their issuing divorce notice is nothing compared to the troubles i caused to their family. It is 2 months since my husband spoke to me. He also spoke to their relative in chennai and told him that his lawyer didn' t allow him to talk to me (which is another lie!). My sil' s in-laws are in chennai. I met them. They were telling us how she and her mother played cruel role in separating them from their son. There are people to support me emotionally.
Do you think it is sufficient? How can such evil people get away with all their sins? They are using my love for my husband as their trump. They are also thinking i will return to USA for the sake of getting my green card! So she is achieving her wish. Separating me from my husband and driving me out of USA. I am not going to withdraw my case against my husband' s family.
I have to depend on internet booths to post messages here. However i will try to update as frequently as possible. Once the case is over i will publish it.
With love
Sumathi
sumathi replied. Dear Friends
I thank you very much for your consoling and encouraging words. My sil' s father-in-law helps me by communicating with my husbands family. He feels my husband is ready for re-union but is being stopped by his mother and sister. He has not withdrawn his case. It takes longer to know the truth.
j, i will keep your word of caution in my mind.
My love to tanu, dddd, Ritika and sakhi
j replied. before u take a step, think about it!!!
cause i had simler problems like u, and i regret that i published it in a newspaper.
me and my husband and his mother and sister get along NOW..
the only problem was a misunderstanding.
about ur ex sister' s inlaws, i think THEY JUST WATCHING A DRAMA!!! they like being involed with u.. they tell u someting else and tell ur in laws something else..
ALWAYS REMEMBER GOD IS WITH YOU AND HE WONT DO ANYTING THAT WILL BE BAD FOR U..
ALWAYS REMEBER---before taking action, think about it, \" r u doing the right thing?\" ..
dont do anyting that u will regret later.
if, ur sil and mil did play bad role, THEN DONT WORRY GOD WILL PUNISH THEM!!
i know wat u going through...
Tanu replied. Sumathi,
You are a very brave girl. I too believe in Karma and I too agree that we all pay for what we do here. In your prayers to God, don' t complain or ask for their payoffs. HE is keeping an account of everyone' s karma and trust me HE is a very good accountant. Just keep doing what is right for you and your child and God will take care of all the hurdles that have/may come in your way. I am sure you will come out of this difficult time in a very graceful manner. Keep faith in God and in yourself. Enjoy being with family. It' s a bliss being with people who care for you and give you unconditional love. I wish you all the best.
Take Care and do post when you can,
Tanu
Ritika replied. Hi Sumathi,
I am very impressed with your strength in keeping your child and yourself safe from the abuse heaped on you by yr hubby.
You have been very brave my dear, and I' m very sure that God will be there for you always!
As for your evil SIL, I' m very sure she will get her just desserts very soon...as Sakhi said, the law of karma will catch up with her...
This is a very difficult time for you and I hope and pray for you that everything will turn out well for you in time.
Dont lose hope...India is booming right now..I' m sure you will be able to find a great job in India itself...
Take care and wish you all the very best...
dddd replied. Sumathi you are more role model. You are an a inspiration to all women.you know how strong u are in such situations.
First of all what your husband said about not able to contact u might be correct as my attorney adviced me the same last year but she also said if you contact him without the cops or lawyers notice that is also fine. you can do that. my husband also was fiercely not contacting me due to TPO.
See your SIL or your in laws may feel they won becoz they cud get their son/brother back. In the long run dont u think the cards will turn and they will be on the receiving end.My SIL has one daughter.When my husband mails her telling he is tensed and me being bad she will immediately mail him she is immature . come back. after 5 yrs of marriage i am immature why becoz i have been near my husband when he was without job supporting him,without money still supporting,abusive still supportive and lastly didnt allow her interference so i am immature.will she support her sil if he is like her brother and tell my daughter is immature .
Dont let them influence u. be firm.i also give her on fone. but this time i will e-mail her a nasty reply to her analysis of my behaviour.if i had run from my husband in his troubles i wud still be immature. the very reason i am married to her brother makes me immature.See how people like in laws can ruin a marriage what cud have been a fairy tale. dont give them that joy.
as far as green card. Dont let go of it. Its our right. we shud get it after being in such marriage. I am also waiting for it.My sil is also the same she doesnt want me near my husband and out of USA. only this is not acheived even tho my husband complains about me to her.that drives her insane.if given her wish she wudnt have let her brother get married and have family.Do you have any idea how your husband is doing. Means how is his mental state. I might have told u i knew this from his friends. do u ask his friends or collegues. its very important as we will know whether they are repenting or not.Thats what matters . then u can take on in laws. I didnt let my in laws know when i cud enable my husband to visit me.they were shocked.
The next thing u may want to consider is know what your husband is doing thru people who move around him daily like friends or close collegues. that will give u an insight.
If you have EAD u can return to US right. Why not consider moving and staying close to husband maybe same locality and observe him.
How is your baby doing.
Take care of you and your baby.There is always a huge disturbance before calm and quiet. So dont worry good days are ahead.best of luck.
sakhi replied. Sumathi,
You are a person of great strength, character and values. I admire and respect the way you have stood by your convictions and values. There are few people like you in this world. And even God admires such people.
What is a green card or a husband to a person of such character and strength? You have virtues far greater in value than these things.
Do not waste time thinking of your sil and husband and their actions. By the law of karma everyone pays for their own actions so they will bear the fruit of their actions.
Concentrate on your baby and your future. Take a break and enjoy your family. I am sure it must be wonderful to have such love and support. Enjoy it to the maximum. Then look for a job even if you have to change your line or maybe look for a research or professorship in a college or university. I am sure eventually when you are ready to come back to the USA you will have no difficulty in finding an employer who will sponsor an H1 for you.
Hats off to women like you!
2007-05-24
#1
Name: sumathi Subject: thank you for your consoling words
Dear Friends
I thank you very much for your consoling and encouraging words. My sil' s father-in-law helps me by communicating with my husbands family. He feels my husband is ready for re-union but is being stopped by his mother and sister. He has not withdrawn his case. It takes longer to know the truth.
j, i will keep your word of caution in my mind.
My love to tanu, dddd, Ritika and sakhi
2007-05-25
#2
Name: dddd Subject: Good woman
Sumathi its really good to know how you are.First of all men may act like they are brave and everything but they are mor emotional than us and miss us when we are not there with them.See take this as a golden opportunity and i think it might help if u go back to US and stay in same city as your husband. Sooner or later your in laws will leave for India and then you move back with your husband after taking a promise from him that things will change. hey i did and i am glad i did it.
i feel if u are in india it will be like out of sight out of mind.If you are near him maybe in same city atleast he will get a warm feeling that you are near him.You care about him and hence you came back.
Take care of you and the baby.post back.
2007-05-22
#3
Name: j Subject: hi
before u take a step, think about it!!!
cause i had simler problems like u, and i regret that i published it in a newspaper.
me and my husband and his mother and sister get along NOW..
the only problem was a misunderstanding.
about ur ex sister' s inlaws, i think THEY JUST WATCHING A DRAMA!!! they like being involed with u.. they tell u someting else and tell ur in laws something else..
ALWAYS REMEMBER GOD IS WITH YOU AND HE WONT DO ANYTING THAT WILL BE BAD FOR U..
ALWAYS REMEBER---before taking action, think about it, \" r u doing the right thing?\" ..
dont do anyting that u will regret later.
if, ur sil and mil did play bad role, THEN DONT WORRY GOD WILL PUNISH THEM!!
i know wat u going through...
2007-05-21
#4
Name: Tanu Subject: Good Luck!!
Sumathi,
You are a very brave girl. I too believe in Karma and I too agree that we all pay for what we do here. In your prayers to God, don' t complain or ask for their payoffs. HE is keeping an account of everyone' s karma and trust me HE is a very good accountant. Just keep doing what is right for you and your child and God will take care of all the hurdles that have/may come in your way. I am sure you will come out of this difficult time in a very graceful manner. Keep faith in God and in yourself. Enjoy being with family. It' s a bliss being with people who care for you and give you unconditional love. I wish you all the best.
Take Care and do post when you can,
Tanu
2007-05-21
#5
Name: Ritika Subject: All the Best!!!
Hi Sumathi,
I am very impressed with your strength in keeping your child and yourself safe from the abuse heaped on you by yr hubby.
You have been very brave my dear, and I' m very sure that God will be there for you always!
As for your evil SIL, I' m very sure she will get her just desserts very soon...as Sakhi said, the law of karma will catch up with her...
This is a very difficult time for you and I hope and pray for you that everything will turn out well for you in time.
Dont lose hope...India is booming right now..I' m sure you will be able to find a great job in India itself...
Take care and wish you all the very best...
2007-05-21
#6
Name: dddd Subject: bravo to the most courageous woman
Sumathi you are more role model. You are an a inspiration to all women.you know how strong u are in such situations.
First of all what your husband said about not able to contact u might be correct as my attorney adviced me the same last year but she also said if you contact him without the cops or lawyers notice that is also fine. you can do that. my husband also was fiercely not contacting me due to TPO.
See your SIL or your in laws may feel they won becoz they cud get their son/brother back. In the long run dont u think the cards will turn and they will be on the receiving end.My SIL has one daughter.When my husband mails her telling he is tensed and me being bad she will immediately mail him she is immature . come back. after 5 yrs of marriage i am immature why becoz i have been near my husband when he was without job supporting him,without money still supporting,abusive still supportive and lastly didnt allow her interference so i am immature.will she support her sil if he is like her brother and tell my daughter is immature .
Dont let them influence u. be firm.i also give her on fone. but this time i will e-mail her a nasty reply to her analysis of my behaviour.if i had run from my husband in his troubles i wud still be immature. the very reason i am married to her brother makes me immature.See how people like in laws can ruin a marriage what cud have been a fairy tale. dont give them that joy.
as far as green card. Dont let go of it. Its our right. we shud get it after being in such marriage. I am also waiting for it.My sil is also the same she doesnt want me near my husband and out of USA. only this is not acheived even tho my husband complains about me to her.that drives her insane.if given her wish she wudnt have let her brother get married and have family.Do you have any idea how your husband is doing. Means how is his mental state. I might have told u i knew this from his friends. do u ask his friends or collegues. its very important as we will know whether they are repenting or not.Thats what matters . then u can take on in laws. I didnt let my in laws know when i cud enable my husband to visit me.they were shocked.
The next thing u may want to consider is know what your husband is doing thru people who move around him daily like friends or close collegues. that will give u an insight.
If you have EAD u can return to US right. Why not consider moving and staying close to husband maybe same locality and observe him.
How is your baby doing.
Take care of you and your baby.There is always a huge disturbance before calm and quiet. So dont worry good days are ahead.best of luck.
2007-05-21
#7
Name: sakhi Subject: Admire your principles!
Sumathi,
You are a person of great strength, character and values. I admire and respect the way you have stood by your convictions and values. There are few people like you in this world. And even God admires such people.
What is a green card or a husband to a person of such character and strength? You have virtues far greater in value than these things.
Do not waste time thinking of your sil and husband and their actions. By the law of karma everyone pays for their own actions so they will bear the fruit of their actions.
Concentrate on your baby and your future. Take a break and enjoy your family. I am sure it must be wonderful to have such love and support. Enjoy it to the maximum. Then look for a job even if you have to change your line or maybe look for a research or professorship in a college or university. I am sure eventually when you are ready to come back to the USA you will have no difficulty in finding an employer who will sponsor an H1 for you.
Hats off to women like you!
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