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hi i m really disappointed.my lmp is 7th august.it is due for 10 days.in between i have done 2 hpt.both r negative i still didnt get my period.
yesterday when i met the doc she said there is no sign of bulkyness in uterous.so it cant be a pregnancy.
you cant even understand my pain.i m out of my mind due to this result.sowmee i m feeling as if i will never conceive if i wont conceive this time.my doc want me to repeat the test n take medicines for my period,but i have a strong faith in god which says there r chances.
i know logically n medically i m wrong.but i want to wait.my doc is telling me that i should wait for one day n repeat the test cozdelay will drag me in to dipression and disappointment.but i want to wait.what do you say.
i m asking you coz some how i feel you could be honest as an adviser and same time you can understand my emotional status.try to ans my query in detail n plzzzzzzzzzz be honest.sowmee i m damnnnnnnnnnn tense n now it is more that tension n depression.even my hubby is realizing that i m on a wrong track of thought process.
all these things are relly tearing my soul.
please be an angel in my pain n help me. sowmee replied. so sad to see u in such depression.but u have to face the reality.what doctor said must be followed since they know whats best for u.but u still have instincts that theres a baby inside u.wait for few days and do blood test.do u have any symptoms of pregnancy let me know.even stress and feeling depressed can lead to delay in periods.hope the best for u.be positive.my prayers with u.friend u will conceive please dont get upset u still have plenty of chances.its not the time to worry.the more relaxed and happy u r the better chances of conceiving.thats the motto to be kept in mind.hope this helps u. K.Radha replied. Dear Rani,

Boy you really do sound stressed to the max! This is exactly why your doctor is suggesting you don' t wait too long, so that you don' t put yourself through any more upset. Already it is obvious that you are very emotional and every day you delay things you' re allowing your hopes to build higher and higher and depression to grow. Your doc has done an ultrasound Rani, if you had conceived it would have been visable and your doctor has suggested another HPT followed medication if it is negative because they feel this is the best treatment for you. It is good that they' ve also considered your emotional well being, that is always a good quality in a doctor. I think if you wanted to wait an extra day or two before testing that would be ok but any longer and I think you' d be setting yourself up for more upset than necessary.

From your post it sound like right now everyone around is very concerned about your emotional wellbeing and you are saying that you' re feeling very tense so I think you should consider taking a one month break from your baby making to give yourself a little breathing space. Use the time to regain a little perspective on things because right now you seemed to be intensely focused on fertility and it can be problematic to allow yourself to get into that mind frame. Take up meditation, breathing exercises, yoga or something else that is relaxing that you can turn your focus toward in times of stress. The biggest and most important item we all need when TTC is COPING SKILLS. As you know everything about TTC is incredibly important, what you eat, your lifestyle, when you have sex, cervical mucus, unexplained tenderness, cramping, you name it EVERYTHING is relevent to your current cycle. Your whole mind is trapped in Am I or Am I Not Pregnant mode. C' mon Rani, you must admit its quite a big thing you' re going through and a well earned break might be a pleasant time to spend time with your hubby love making rather than baby making... Just some time to be romantic and to pamper yourself before jumping back into the wonder world of TTC. Give some thought to what you' ll do and I sincerely wish you the very best of luck and hope to read that you' re pregnant before too long.

Warm Wishes
Kate