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How would you help a child cope with the trauma of divorce? Do you think parents should try to help them or is it better for a qualified doctor to go about it? What other problems does such a child experience? Namita replied. The biggest obstacle to helping a child cope with divorce is to sensitise the people around him. Many people do not realise how hurtful their comments can be. Your child should not have to discuss his problems with people who will pry and probe into your family' s personal matters. Person who wants to get divorced should think twice before taking this decision because it is finally going to affect the future of child. And we all know how people are. They always wait, watch and enjoy the bad things which are going to happen to their neighbours and relatives. People are happier if some bad things are happening to other rather doing something good to their own self. Rambha replied. I don' t quite understand the concept of allowing your child to be angry. Should you not discourage your child from being frustrated? If you allow him to be angry, how do you get him to stop later on? This seems to be a slightly flawed idea. I always have a strong opinion that it only and only parent’s fault to make child’s future worse. If parents give birth to the child they should completely understand and agree that fulfilling the necessities of the child is the duty of both the parents and not only one. Both the parent’s have the equal amount of right on the child and even the child deserves to stay with both his parents. Parents have no right to spoil the future of child under the name of getting divorce for their own fights. I am totally against the concept of divorce. I think it should be rule that no parent can get divorce from other parent unless the child has proper understanding about this concept. Shridhar replied. In this country, we frown upon psychiatric therapy but it actually works. A doctor with years of experience will know exactly how to get through to your child. Parents think they have their child' s best intentions at heart but they often do not really know how to help them. They fail to understand the mentality of the child. First of all they are moving away from their child by fighting with each other. They do not understand that fighting in front of children can affect their mind and overall development. It may also happen that the child may stop respecting his parents after looking at how they behave with each other.