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hi friends,
I am 30 years old hw and mother of a 2year old.he eats less and looks very thin.I am doing my best to make him eat ,I checked with ped she told me not to worry...now my problem is whenever some one sees him says he is skiny,he looks tired,feed him this,that....i am tired of this advice,feeling very sad and helpless and whenever he refuses to eat I cant control my anger and I spank him,I know its wrong butI dont know how to stop it.2 days back I promised myself that I wont beat him again but the way I scolded him pushed him out of the room that was no better than spanking him.so frends plese save me and my poor baby. sos replied. U know something the more tensed u get about him eating less , the lesser he will eat . Take it from me .. my son was and still is a poor eater - 6 yrs old .. my mil used to feed him as i was working .. and she would keep forcing him to eat .. so much so that my son developed complete aversion to food .. it was really sad ..in fact it is worse when they cant speak and and yes or no ..

pls let him take his own time .. chk with the doc on his weight progress -- if the doc is happy then thats the only person u should be concerned about . NEVER FORCE YOUR CHILD TO EAT . EATING IS THE MOST NORMAL THING - EVERY HUMAN GETS HUNGRY . SO IT IS A BASIC NEED . REMEMBER THAT . chk if there is some special food that he likes ,,.. give him that . dont force him to eat anything and most importantly dont show ur disapproval . i know it can be exasperating nad very very difficult . but remember if u start forcing him then u are interfering with nature' s ways . make dishes that he likes having .. make eating a most matter of fact thing .. not some major excercise . Ritika replied. For starters, when somebody gives unwanted advice, then defend your child...I hope this person(s) doesnt say all this in front of yr kid!

Next time someone says that yr child is skinny etc..then very firmly say that you have checked with yr doctor and he says that yr kid is fine..and there is nothing to worry about..so please dont worry on my kid' s behalf.

About yr anger, next time it raises its head again...go out of the room...give yourself some time...spanking the kid is not going to make him eat more...so that' s really not a solution...

Divya is right..you need to play with yr kid while feeding him...like this bite is for yr dad..next bite is for your mom...next bite is for etc etc...if he doesnt eat then dont pressurize him too much..he' ll just develop an aversion from food..after all he will eat whenever he gets hungry...

Also, he' s 2 yrs old..and its called terrible two' s not fr nothing...

All the best... divya replied. really been there,Spanking doesn' t help help at all.I used to do it before . It just gets my frustation out but he doesn' t eat.
Really pampering and feeding them will atleast work to some extent where i show my kid various objects , opens the new toys during feeding.Try other things depending on your kid....spanking them will only distant your relation ship in long run.