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hi all,
i have a strange problem.i´ m married for 4 yrs & trying to conceive from past 5 months, but with no success.
my problem is from past 4 yrs my husband is used to condoms while having intercourse.so while TTC he couldnt take out his condoms as he was very conscious & used to say it hurt him a lot.so what i did was make a hole in the condom so that the sperm flows out of the hole & gets inside me.i thought in this way he will have the feeling of wearing a condom at the same time we can conceive also as all the sperms used to flow out when we did this way.my husband feels very conscious when his foreskin touches directly inside me. he is just not able to do it. so now since i havent conceived i fear if we are doing it wrong.is this the reason we are not conceiving?is it because the lubricants used in condoms are harmful & are killing the sperms.plz tell me are we doing it right or whether it shouldnt be done this way?is it necessary to do it completely natural without using condoms for TTC.plz help.i´ m getting too worried as its high time i should have a baby now.plz tell me is this the reason?what should i do?thank u all in advance deepa replied. hi
this is my firsttime that i m posting a reply but i think it will be of some help to u ...b' coz ven my hubby use condom n he also had the same feeling tht he will hurt his foreskin while intercourse but one of his friend has suggested him to use oil n try it ...it was painful for him for the first time but lateron we infact he got used to it since u r trying to concive it important to use natural things u can also use some cream on ur part first or either of u ..try it ..it worked 4 me amy be evn for u ..best of luck Just a suggestion replied. There are condoms without lubricants available in the market. I would expect it to be a better option if you could use those..Don' t worry about the time you' re taking to conceive, there' s only 20% chance of conceiving in each cycle, so relax and stop worrying. You should also try to put your husband at ease to get over his discomfort when not using one, discuss this with him and convince him to try it slowly to get over his anxiety. Mrinalini replied. Why dont you use lubricants withjout spermicide to start of with - if your well lubricated husband will not have any problem - so which also means you have to relax a bit and not get conscious abt your husband - I knw it cant happen overnight but slowly...