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Hi Everybody,
My MIL is very dominating, whenever I am submissive and give her enough maska, she is a very good lady,but the moment I revolt, she is just the opposite, she even starts cooking separate food for her. She is afraid of nobody.And then she starts her own routine, watching TV all the time, doesnt even talk much with my kids. I have 2 kids, and I am somewhat dependant on her as I cannot take them everywhere with me. She knows that her position is superior than mine and takes full advantage of it.Then when we dont talk with each other, I start feeling very uncomfortable, guilty that I am not respecting her, etc. The whole atmosphere gets polluted by her behaviour.Then finally I end up patching up, because I am not supposed to have any ego problems, being the younger of the two.My question is, how long can this torture be tolerated? Even when I revolt, it is me who suffers, she seems to be a rock full of ego.I just cannot gather enough courage to stand up for myself, I get very disturbed as she is there in the same house and it is a strange situation for me.So I have to give in to her finally and then she is again ruling me.Will there be an end to this?( My hubby prefers to be neutral to both, doesnt interfere, but it is me who suffers her presence 24 hrs a day) riya replied. Dear,

I think its not a big problem .

Understand one thing that you need her and she doesnot need you . So if you want her to take care of your kids then be polite and good to her.See how much of your time and work is saved and to give you one more trick start appreciating her in front of your relatives Eg. Your son loves his grand mom so much that he doesnot leave her at all he is always calling grand ma .

Take care RADHA replied. DEAR,
SOMETIMES EVEN I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE SAME SITUATION BUT NOT WITH MY MIL.MY MOM TOLD ME A QUOTE OF A HOLY BOOK CALLED SUKHMANI. IT GOES LIKE \" JIS THAKUR KIYO NAHI CHARA TAA KAU KIJHEY SAD NAMASKARA\" IT MEANS WHERE THERE IS NO SOLUTION U SHOULD DO NAMASKAR (BOW)
IN UR CASE BEING AS SWEET AS HONEY N BUTTERING IS THE ONLY OPTION AS U TOO R DEPENDENT ON HER.BE PATIENT

GOOD LUCK
RADHA