Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi, (I am posting it here too,in case)
We are trying to conceive for the past 2 years.I have irregular periods.I am taking Ayurvedic medicines and now they come every 2 months.I do not ovulate regularly. My husband has a little low sperm motility but a good count.
The following will be a little squeamish.Please forgive me.But I have no other go other than to write here and get some advice.
But before all that,I had no clue on how to have intercourse.Like only recently did I know that I had to insert my husband's thing into mine.Now I think we are doing it properly since the bed doesnt get wet.Before the bed used to get wet under my buttocks.
I would really like to know the following.
1. Is it okay if the foreskin is pulled back.I think only the thing under the foreskin is getting inserted into mine.Is it normal? or do we have to insert the whole thing?
2.Is it necessary for a female to get orgasm to conceive?
3. After the sex,I lay down still for 15 minutes and when I go to the bathroom,i have this white liquid thing on my panties. Does that mean everything has come out? Is everybody having the same doubts like mine or are these all normal?
4.I only wash it in the mornings.Is that okay?

Can someone who really knows about all these help me?I am very desperate.

Now, before knowing how to have intercourse,I took clomid 2 times.I think I ovulated but again I do not think we did it right. Then drastcially we went for IVF.The doctor here in US was pressurizing us for IVF.He said you both are subfertile ,so the fastest thing is to do IVF. We went ahead for that procedure.I got pregnant but lost my baby 10th week. The doctor gave me progrestorone and some other tablet which was not approved by FDA.But he made us sign that we do not mind it.For wanting to have a baby i signed everything he asked me to do.Now I think those tablets would have had some harm.Since I read somewhere over progrestone also can destroy the baby.My doctors asked me to cut down my tables during my 4th week,since my blood tests revealed my progrestrone level was high.This is my story.I do not want to do IVF again and want to try some time with these ayurvedic medicines for sometime before going for such drastic measures.
That is why I need this help desperately.

want2bmom replied. Thank you people for your replies. You have put me in a little ease. amar replied. Answers

1)That's correct. only Part under foreskin get inserted. That's only 1/3 of erect penis. Not whole.

2) Don't need orgasm to conceive.

3) Laying down for 15 minutes is OK. The liquid which comes out is also normal. In fact this means intercourse is normal.

4) Washing out in the morning is also OK. Take care that you should not have any infection. SAPNA replied. hi,
i am in the same position like u. what ever u have written, exactly matches for me also. but, ihave one more doubt, i want to know if the white discharge is normal or not! i am wondering may be because of this daily white discharge, i am not able to get conceive. i am afraid, it may reduce my resistance power. pls. advice. Smile replied. Hi,
Read ur message.....Try using some lubricating gel. In our case my hubby's foreskin was pulled back and I guess it is normal. Once the tip of the foreskin was torn and started bleeding. We went to the GP and he said there is nothing to worry. He suggested my hubby to use some lubricating gel. We did some R&D on that and found this ASTROGLIDE.It really worked. It is water based, there is no harm in using it. Before buying any lubricating gel look for \";THIS PRODUCT IS NOT A SPERMICIDE\";. Spermicides are generally sperm killing produt. Astroglide is safe and it says that, so go for the one which has NO SPERMICIDE in it. Anyways, consult your doctor before using it.
I think lying for 15 mins is enought for the sperm to reach its destination. If you still have a doubt, lie on the bed on your back with a pillow under your butt for atleast 20 mins after the intercourse.
Regarding your question on orgasm, I really don't know if we need one to coneive.
It is ok if u wash it in the morning. Tips: DO NOT wash it with warm or hot water for the first time. Wash it with cold water. Hope this works!
My best wishes. Be patient and have faith in GOD. Bye.