Hi All,

Today I am really frustrated and do not know how to help myself!!!

I am a very calm and patient person. I usually do not get angry, but these days I am losing all my patience slowly...I get angry quite quickly...

I stay in a joint family. My kid is now 20 months old. He is a good boy, but has started becoming too naughty and stubborn... at times he will throw his toys when he gets angry, or someone from the family says \";Dont do this...dont do that\"; but he just doesnt listen!!!

I understand that it may be becuase of this compulsion from my Parents in laws that not to make him touch anything, he too is getting frustrated...but it is really becoming embarrasing for me and I just get angry on him and today I slapped him out of ANGER...

I am really frustrated because o fhis nuisance.

Please help me come out of this!! I just want my child to be happy!!!

Hetal replied. the more you say No they enjoy seeing your reactions,,and see them again and again,,esp NO,,they enjoy it..
never say no to kids.instead give him something to play and help him explore things..as far as they arent harming them never try to snatch things from them..do it cleverly and very calmly..lets say he has taken a hanger or a knife,,dont try to snatch it,,it will worsen situation or harm him. as soon as he takes, ignore as if he has not taken nething,talk to him with eye contact, trying to absorb all his attention,,so that your whole face and eyes are seen in his eyes, once close enough, give him his fav things that are around or ne unusual things to play like spoon oe nething else thats safe enough and slowly release the grip of his hand nd take the knife from his hands,,,this way you or neone wont be hurt and he wont know..in case he happens to know about it, and tries to scream and take it back,,make is disappear and take him to a diff room and divert his mind. instead of getting anger, absorb your child aggressive and impluse behaviour, this way your child will learn to follow your intructions and will not make you angry..he will like to please you too...
this is a tough one but there is no way that you can win over your child,,he needs things to explore and he is growing healthy child,,you cannot expect his growth to be limited upto the level of his toys only !
get him more toys,put him to some good gym activity center and he will njoy learning new things,,at 20months,get him some big picture books nd let your child enjoy watching them..there are wonderful channels these days,,baby first tv,nick jr,,all have great programs,,make your child sit and watch that,,they are developmental as well.

never slap or get ngry at your child before he is 5 years,,remember,you are not having war with him dear,,you are his mother and you have to win over him with Love and not physically..let your child know how wonderful mother you are rather than making him get scared of you and hide things from you in future.and always remember onething,,bad things are remembered first than good things...dont make your child go thru that.

good luck,,Love
Hetal